Sophie Rosie

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Taking time before you reply.

Taking time before you reply.

And no, I'm not talking about waiting 23 minutes to text him back after he took 22. I'm talking about how I'm pretty sure we've all replied to a message while being upset or angry, re-read it half an hour later once we've calmed down, and realised we probably shouldn't have said half of the things we did. I do it all of the time.  I have always been someone who is very much controlled by my emotions, rather than my head. It doesn't matter whether I'm upset or happy or frustrated, my response to a situation can be very different depending on how I'm feeling in that exact moment.  There have been so many times when I've rushed a response in a huff or whilst feeling sad or hurt, and then a few hours later, wished I hadn't... or then thought of a better response I should've typed instead. And I'm not just talking about text messages either, I'm talking about emails, too.

And no, I'm not talking about waiting 23 minutes to text him back after he took 22. I'm talking about how I'm pretty sure we've all replied to a message while being upset or angry, re-read it half an hour later once we've calmed down, and realised we probably shouldn't have said half of the things we did. I do it all of the time. 

I have always been someone who is very much controlled by my emotions, rather than my head. It doesn't matter whether I'm upset or happy or frustrated, my response to a situation can be very different depending on how I'm feeling in that exact moment.  There have been so many times when I've rushed a response in a huff or whilst feeling sad or hurt, and then a few hours later, wished I hadn't... or then thought of a better response I should've typed instead.

And I'm not just talking about text messages either, I'm talking about emails, too.

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Take time before you reply.

You could be working your dream job, and I guarantee there'd still be that one colleague that would really get on your tits. Every email they send you will make you just want to throw your laptop out the window, go and hunt them down from the 3rd floor, and shake them until they've admitted they're ~trying~ to be hard-work just for the sake of it.

I've sent many emails back to this kind of colleague after they've properly got on my wick, read back over it later, and realised it was probably a little too blunt.

So, I'm trying this new thing. If I receive an email or text message that makes me feel annoyed or upset or frustrated, I'm going to try not to reply straight away when my emotions are still very much ruling my head. I'm going to ~try~ and wait until my emotions have calmed down a little and I'm back to thinking more rationally.  I'm hoping it's going to think things through properly and realise that a situation or message probably isn't as bad as it seems. That colleague probably just doesn't realise or understand what they're doing or how they're coming across, or it may be that they just don't understand what you do or your pressures.  And as for that text message? Is it really going to matter in an hour or two? Is it going to still be bothering you tomorrow and is it really worth getting that worked up over? So, whether it's holding off for 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or even an hour or two - I'm hoping it's going to help, however long it takes.

So, I'm trying this new thing. If I receive an email or text message that makes me feel annoyed or upset or frustrated, I'm going to try not to reply straight away when my emotions are still very much ruling my head. I'm going to ~try~ and wait until my emotions have calmed down a little and I'm back to thinking more rationally. 

I'm hoping it's going to think things through properly and realise that a situation or message probably isn't as bad as it seems. That colleague probably just doesn't realise or understand what they're doing or how they're coming across, or it may be that they just don't understand what you do or your pressures. 

And as for that text message? Is it really going to matter in an hour or two? Is it going to still be bothering you tomorrow and is it really worth getting that worked up over?

So, whether it's holding off for 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or even an hour or two - I'm hoping it's going to help, however long it takes.

Soph

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The London Diaries; Notting Hill

The London Diaries; Notting Hill