How it took just 30 seconds for someone else to put my 'problems' into perspective.

Okay so picture this; it was 7pm on a Wednesday evening and I was feeling pretty sh*t. I'd spent the last few hours 'arguing' with a very close friend of mine who I care about a lot and I was feeling pretty helpless about our situation. I'd spent 40 minutes locked away in the bathroom because I was so upset. I was tired. I'd been up since 5am and had spent 5 hours on the train that morning, before then doing a whole day at work filled with intense meetings and everything going wrong and well, I was just feeling down and v sorry for myself.

That was until I went for dinner with a friend who lives in London who I hadn't seen in a while. We met each other outside the train station and he was physically shaking. We were meant to grab a coffee first but we instantly realised he probably needed something a little stronger (gin).

You see, this had been his first day as a junior doctor working for our NHS. 

We ended up grabbing a takeaway and cake (the best comfort food!) and heading back to eat at his, where I was greeted by his 3 other housemates, who were all also junior doctors who had just finished their first days in their new hospitals too. 

And while they were all discussing their days with each other, talking about what had happened since they'd left for work that morning and using this time to release their thoughts and feelings about their day, I couldn't help but realise that this had all put my day into perspective. 

One of these girls had had to sit down and tell a lady and her family that they'd found a brain tumour today, and sit there while it slowly sunk in that all of their lives had suddenly changed forever and I'd.... well, I'd sent a few emails?

I mean, obviously I'd done more than that but that's pretty much how it felt in comparison. Even the things going on in my personal life suddenly didn't seem so important anymore and it's only when I hear things like this, that it reminds me to stop getting stressed over the little stuff. It reminds me to stop wasting time on things that don't really matter and it really hits you that life really is too short, sometimes. 

It reminded me that you never quite know what's round the corner and it reminded me to be even more thankful for everything that I'd written about here. It reminded me to be thankful that my job isn't life or death like the possibility of it being just that everyday for these guys, and it reminded me to be thankful that we have people like this working to look after and help every single one of us, every day, no matter what. 

So next time I feel myself getting 'stressed' at work, I'm going to remember that my day could be a lot worse.



  1. I can't even imagine having to do that on your first day, that's horrific! I find it so easy to think that my job is super stressful and difficult, but this has definitely helped me to put things in perspective

    Steph -

  2. I don't know how on earth they do the job they do - they're so brave and hardworking. You're so right, it really does help to put everything into perspective x

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  3. I have such respect for doctors. The medical training is so extensive, the sort of hours you have to endure as a junior doctor are crazy. Most importantly, they serve the wider community, trying to help people as best as they can, and it must be so difficult to have to give bad news day after day. You're right, you never know what's going to happen, good news or bad.

  4. You are so right hun! My boyfriend is a doctor and I have so much respect for the work doctors and nurses do.. it's absolutely incredible!

    xx Lisa |

  5. I definitely admire your friend so much! It's a job that I couldn't do! xx

  6. This must be so incredibly difficult for your friend and others, really does put things into perspective too. Thanks for sharing, this was needed!

    Holly xxx

  7. This was such an interesting post - particularly because as a junior doctor I often look to my patients to put my own stresses into perspective! The days when I'm getting up early to go to work, I think of the patients also coming in - perhaps nervous before a planned operation or a clinic appointment, or perhaps coming in really unwell as an emergency. I think what's important is to realise that everyone's stresses and worries are valid and we all handle things differently.
    Jennifer x
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