I owe my body confidence to a boy.

If you scroll through my Instagram, you'll find that I'm not one to shy away from posting photo's of pretty underwear or bikini shots on the internet. I'm naturally a pretty quiet gal and a lot of people are often quite surprised by it and point out that it's 'brave' of me to do this.

Honestly? I don't see it as being brave. I'm simply happy with my body, I've learned to love it and accept it as it is. This is a totally different story when it comes to loving myself, though. Of course, there are so many things that I would change about myself if I could and I'll always see flaws in everything. I think that's just natural.


If you were to carry on scrolling through my Instagram however, to the summer of 2015 and beyond, you'll find that there are no photo's of the sort, and the thought of posting anything like this was simply terrifying. 

So, what changed?

Well, I met a boy. And this boy managed to teach me that I should love my body. You see, before him, I'd never had anyone tell me that they thought I looked good in my favourite underwear or appreciate my body like he did. And it was like for the first time, I was able to see myself without the harsh criticism filter that I'd had on every time I looked in the mirror. For the first time I wasn't comparing myself to all of the heavily photoshopped Insta-famous girls on the internet, and for the first time, I really started to grow in body confidence and I can't even tell you how good it felt.  

And do you know what's even better? This new found body positivity didn't dissappear when he did and it isn't going anywhere. This boy didn't just 'give' anything to me, but he taught me how and where to find the confidence and now no one can take that away from me again. 

I know there'll be a lot of you reading this and mentally shouting at me that we don't need boys for anything. And no, we most definitely don't and this isn't what I'm trying to say. If you know me, at all, you'll know how independent and determined I am all on my little own-some, and independence is something else that I've talked about a lot

What I am trying to say, is that body confidence doesn't just come naturally for a lot of people, and it can also come from the most unexpected of places. It also take a lot of work. There's not a switch that you can flick and then that's it. It's a gradual process and one that I've found is easier if you have the right people around you.

Sometimes, you just need a little push from others who are older and a little wiser to teach you some of the best and most important lessons, and that's okay.

Do you know what I mean? I think I've explained this terribly. But it was just something that I was thinking about as I was stalking my own Instagram yesterday.

I'm going to shut up now because this is getting weirder.

Have a lovely Sunday.

Soph

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  1. I was always bullied in school for having small breasts, having others point out time and time again that I basically didn't have a chest I told myself that once I got older I would get a boob job. 10 years have passed now and after having had 3 long term relationships with guys who absolutely loved my body and never said anything about the size of my boobs I have also found my body confidence. To be honest I kind of thought it was weird that because they loved my body I learnt to love mine so thank you for sharing this post 😊

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    1. This is the kind of story that makes me so, so happy! This is exactly what happened to me and I think it really does take someone to teach you how they (and probably everyone else) see's you instead of just what we see. I'm so glad you're happy now lovey <3 xx

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  2. This is really nice. Sometimes it just takes a view from someone else's eyes. I mean, it kind of makes sense. when we literally look down at ourselves from our angle, everything looks less nice that straight on (if that makes sense)

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    1. Haha exactly! I totally get what you mean! x

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  3. This is a nice post, great you found your confidence and it has some funny bits that made me laugh out loud. Really enjoyed reading this.

    www.underaytedray.co.uk

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  4. This is really nice to read - that you've become confident (no matter how that came about) and have been able to hang onto that even after being with this boy! You're right it's such a learning curve and something that is difficult to master but when you do, I bet it feels amazing! Still on that journey but I know I've come a long way with it!

    JosieVictoriaa // Fashion, Travel & Lifestyle

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    1. Thank you, Josie! It really is difficult but it's totally worth it, and do you know what? I don't think that particular journey will ever end for us! I hope you have a fabulous day x

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  5. Sophie, sometimes I read you and it's like I am reading my life story. I am the same, I used to be so harsh on my body and compare it to all the girls out there. Then the boy appeared giving me a completely different vision of my own body. I am so glad he did because it gave me the push I needed to start blogging, And I am just as much of a pro of independence as you are! Great read girl!

    http://www.persianbrunette.com

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    1. Haha this really made me giggle! Its crazy isn't it how we sometimes just need a little push! Yes gal - independence all the way, right?! xx

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  6. This is so lovely honestly, and I'm so glad that someone made you feel that way, boys aren't always useless hahaha!

    Lucie | Forever September

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    1. Thank you, Lucie! Haha no, not quite always 😂 x

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