If they underestimate you, let them. And then prove them wrong.

If they underestimate you, let them. And then prove them wrong.

I have had a lot of people underestimate me in my life, and for the first 18 years, I totally don't blame them. I wouldn't say boo to a goose or go anywhere near the edges of my comfort zone. I was very shy and quiet and I was happy keeping my head down, doing everything that was just 'expected' of me, keeping myself to myself, staying in my hometown and hanging out with the few, close friends that I was the most comfortable with. I didn't really 'do' anything. I made sure that I did well in school, I got myself a 'good' job and I had my hobbies, and that was about it.

And then all of a sudden, something clicked. I wanted to do more. I wanted to be more. I wanted to show people that there was more to this girl than just academic achievements and doing what was expected. So I started to do more of what I actually wanted to do, I started to push myself out of my comfort zone despite what I thought other people might think.

This might sound like a silly thing to remember, but I worked at my old job for 3 1/2 years. The first 2 years of those, I never really made an effort with how I looked. I'd wear a vest top or a t-shirt and a pencil skirt, with no make up and my hair pretty much the same as how I'd got out of bed. And that's just what people came to expect.

And then one day, I turned up in a killer trouser skirt, with my hair done and my favourite red lipstick on and it felt so bloomin' awesome. I still remember that day so vividly. I remember the way people looked and the things that they said to me. It was one of the first times that I really surprised people and I loved it.

And ever since then it's been something that I strive to achieve. Blowing people's expectations of me out of the water and showing them that I'm capable of a lot more than what they think.

Ever since this day, I've achieved a lot. I started my blog (and it's still here!), my career has totally changed and I've done things and taken risks that I'd never thought I'd be brave enough to do.

I used to often wonder why people underestimate me. Maybe it's because at 5 ft nothing, I'm pretty tiny. Maybe it's because at first glance, I still look about 12. Maybe it's because even though I'm more confident now, I'm still pretty softly spoken. And if I'm honest, I used to hate it.

But now I love it. If I can tell someone doesn't think I'm capable of something, I let them think just that. And then I work hard to prove them wrong. Because is there anything like someone telling you you can't do something to motivate you to do it?



  1. Amazing post as always - totally agree, when some doubts you or tells you, you can't do something it only makes you want to work harder!

    Lucy | Forever September

  2. "Blowing people's expectations of me out of the water and showing them that I'm capable of a lot more than what they think" -> my new mantra! Thank you! :)

  3. Fabulous post as always Soph! Your posts always give me a bit of a kick up the bum haha! xx

  4. Yes, we all go and prove them wrong! I like your attitude towards being underestimated. It's such a positive outlook you have and I think go about it the same way. what's the point defending yourself and then them still thinking you not got it. Actions speak louder than words!
    Lea, xx

  5. Lovely read, highly motivating. Thanks for sharing dear


  6. I just recently completed my psychology degree and I was told so many times I wasn't 'academic' enough to complete it, but that spurred me on and here I am with a degree so academic I actually had to use maths!