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Hello, you! I'm Soph - a 22 year old girl currently living in Liverpool, spending most of her time writing, taking photo's, drinking coffee & trying not to eat too much cake.

Things you don't need to be happy.



What you don't need to be happy with your life.

There's a lot of 'How to be happy' posts out there, and I, for one, am terribly guilty of owning a number of pretty books of similar titles. It was only yesterday, as I walked into town and I noticed a little boy giggling and waving at passers by, that I smiled and waved back to him and realised how happy it made him that someone had returned his little gesture. Kids don't need a lot to make them happy, and that's how we all were, once.

And then, we graduate into adult life and somehow we're lead to believe that if we don't have certain things, then we won't be happy. Well, here's a little reverse list of some of those things that I feel we don't actually need.

A n  'i d e a l'  l i f e  &  a  p e r f e c t  p a s t. 

There's often a misconception that your life has to be perfect all of the time in order to be happy, but I really don't think that this is true, not least of all completely unrealistic. We all have bad days, bad weeks, and sometimes it may feel that our bad luck lasts a lifetime. But if we didn't have these bad days, we certainly wouldn't appreciate the good days half as much. And quite often, this is the key; appreciation of what we have, and not getting ourselves down because there's something we don't.

It's all about our attitude to life.

We also shouldn't let our past affect our future happiness. This can hard, like really hard, sometimes. It's hard to let go and try and move forward if you've been broken. But sometimes, being broken can give you the ability to see what you're truly made of, and use this as your strength to do great things.

E v e r y o n e' s  a p p r o v a l.

This is one that I, personally struggle with, and one that I need to remember more often. Not everyone is going to like you. It's pretty impossible to be everyone's cup of tea, and we can't let others tell us who we are or what we want. These are things that we have to decide for ourselves, without the influence of others.

I know that I've spent way too many years trying to be someone that I'm not, in a bid to please people and try and be who they want me to be. And do you know what? It's actually pretty damn tiring. The second you realise that the approval of someone else doesn't make you any better, is a really good day.

You do you, and all that. 




Y o u r  w h o l e  f u t u r e  p l a n n e d  o u t.

Lol. Who feel's like they don't what they're doing with their life? Yeah, me too. And a lot of the time this can be super scary. I wrote a little about how I was feeling about this in this post, and a lot of you guys seemed to feel exactly the same.

And while yes, if I knew what I was doing, it would probably take away a lot of the things that I worry and stress about, but at the same time, wouldn't it also take away half of the fun? A lot of the best things that have happened to me, and that I've experienced, have been things that were completely unexpected, and that if you'd have told me they were to happen beforehand, I'd have probably broke into a fit of laughter. 

Oh, and also, sometimes it's better not to have any expectations, right?

A  r e l a t i o n s h i p.

Relationships are essential. I don't know how anyone could cope in complete solidarity. I know that without my family and friends, I'd probably be a complete mess, somedays. But depending on a romantic relationship to make you happy, I think can be a little unhealthy. It's nobody else's 'job' to make you happy.

I'm sure we all have that one friend who can't be single. Who hops from one relationship to the next because they feel like they need a significant other in their life. However, I feel like only you can make yourself truly happy. I read something yesterday that kinda summed it up. It said;

'Never give all your power to anyone else. Until you make complete peace with who you are, you'll never be content with what you have, or who you're with.

A  d e s i g n e r  w a r d r o b e,  o r  a n y t h i n g  'm a t e r i a l'.

All I'm going to say here, is something that I'm sure we all know already. But you really can't 'buy' happiness. It just doesn't work like that, and no matter how much you convince yourself that that Givenchy handbag is going to solve all of your problems (lol, I've tried to convince myself this on multiple occasions), it really won't. So, focus on those other things that will.

Is there anything else that you'd add to this list? Let me know.

Soph

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  1. I just don't know what inspires you everyday to create these posts but I want in too! Another amazing post Soph, it is so very true and I've never really thought about it until just reading your post.

    Also I have a question, the current location widget in your side bar, how did you get that? I've been trying to work it out for ages and I would love to know.

    Dionne xoxo
    DeeDee Louise

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    1. Haha thank you, Dionne! I don't know where all my inspiration has come from at the minute, either! I'm glad you're enjoying it, though! x

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  2. Adore this post. It's so true, 'Never give all your power to anyone else' - love that! xxx

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    1. It's such a good little quote, isn't it! x

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  3. Such a fab post girl - so so true! Gorgeous images too! x

    www.stylepetal.co.uk

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  4. this is a great post! I've been doing a lot of thinking about what makes me happy and what I need and don't need in my life; this sums it up so well!

    Emma
    emmasjoys.co.uk

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    1. Thank you, Emma! I'm so glad you liked this post :) x

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  5. This is so refreshing Soph! I completely agree with all these, approval especially. It is shocking how much we adapt our lives in order to gain approval from others. I also agree with relationships, I am happy in one ATM as he is literally like my best pal - but for years and years I was single and happy. I need my gal pals and fam of course, but I didn't need no man to complete my happiness! Immy x

    www.immymay.com

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    1. Thank you, Immy! I totally agree about how we adapt ourselves for others, which we totally shouldn't do! I'm so happy you've found someone that you're happy with lovely! x

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  6. Another post that speaks directly to my heart <33 Oh Soph, I just bloody love you and your blog! I always worry about not having my future planned out, but am trying to take one step at a time xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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    1. Ahh Jessie, thank you! Girl, you're going to have a wonderful future, I can just tell! x

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  7. I fall in love with your blog more and more after every post I read :) another amazing one and I couldn't agree more with everything you mentioned. I think for me the most important point on your list is 'everyone's approval' - it's something I'm well aware of but I'm also still working on it because I always worry about how others are going to perceive the real me when that's really not something I should worry about x

    Sara’sChapters

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    1. Oh, Sara! Thank you lovely :) It's something thats so hard not to do, isn't it? If you naturally worry about that kinda stuff, it' so difficult, sometimes! x

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  8. Beautiful post! I absolutely agree with you. Also, I just wanted to let you know that I just discovered your blog and fell head over heels in love. Followed ;)

    Love, Kerstin
    http://www.missgetaway.com/

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    1. Thank you so much, lovely! I'm glad you like it :) x

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  9. love this post! i definitely dont have my life planned out but im totally okay with that!

    Hannah at Hannah Venables / A CREATIVE LIFESTYLE BLOG

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    1. Thank you, Hannah! And yep, that's totally okay! x

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  10. Lovely post, especially when we're always swamped by advertising that convinces us we can only be happy with that product and lifestyle! I would add "an idealised body type" to the list (I had to think long and hard before coming up with one you hadn't covered though!) - it took me aaaages to learn to be happy with my body and to treat it as a vehicle for my life rather than a decorative object. The difference in the way I feel, behave, dress, present myself and eat is astounding xxx
    Lucy @ La Lingua | Life, Travel, Italy

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    1. Thank you, Lucy! That's so, so amazing to hear, Lucy! It's funny how something like that, can really change your whole life, isn't it? :) xx

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  11. Yes another great post! so important to remember that we don't need anyone elses approval or be in a relationship to make us happy.. you are so right it isn't anyones job to make you happy... it's up to you and i don't think you should get into a relationship unless you are happy with yourself

    Ronnie
    www.veronicabizzarri.blogspot.co.uk
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    1. Thank you, Ronnie! I totally agree! :) x

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  12. One thing that changed my life big time when I was in high school was when I decided to find happiness in the simplest of things. However, temptations do come with given circumstances especially we've moved to another place and I'm studying in a school that somehow the majority of the population focuses on material things and with that, it does make me change on how I look but when I'm all alone, I wake myself up that I shouldn't be fooled because happiness is everywhere if we're not too blind to see it. :)

    Augustin Ra / Indie Spirit

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    1. That last bit of your comment - 'happiness is everywhere if we're not too blind to see it' - this is my favourite thing I've read all day! xx

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  13. Such an amazing post Sophie - its reassuring to know that really, you don't need all these things to be happy, especially not having your shit together which I'm pleased about haha!

    Lucy | Forever September

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    1. Thank you, Lucy. Haha no, you definitely don't need your shit together to be happy - I think I'd have no chance if that was the case haha! x

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  14. Ahh love this post! It's so true, this year I've been abroad and away from University and it's made me realise that there are so many things I can do for myself that just make me happy and I don't need to wait around for other people to do them! X
    misszarabelle.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I totally agree with this comment, Zara! x

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  15. I just found your blog and I love it! Great post.
    www.latourdetara.com

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  16. Love this post! Just having a catch up of your blog and I am in love with your recent content, also that new template is killing it x

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