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Hello, you! I'm Soph - a 22 year old girl currently living in Liverpool, spending most of her time writing, taking photo's, drinking coffee & trying not to eat too much cake.

The fluctuations of self-worth.



The fluctuations of self-worth.

I think we've all struggled with self-worth at some point. That feeling of not being good enough, of wondering why things keep going wrong or trying to figure out what you need to change about yourself to be 'better'. It's something that I battle with quite regularly. 

For me, there's always a trigger. It's an off-hand comment, it's seeing other people being super successful at what they do, it's a break up, or it's rejection in any form. And I guess the list could go on. But what I've started to notice is, that when these feelings and bad thoughts come creeping, uninvitedly into my head, the 'trigger' always involves someone else. I constantly let other people knock my self-esteem, and I can't seem to stop them.


I'm the kind of girl that takes everything to heart. I can't help it and boy, I wish I didn't. I overthink and overanalyse and over-evaluate every situation and most probably, everything that you say. Sorry about that. I don't blame you, or anyone else for anything that is said or done that makes me feel crap. But you see, I think this is the problem right here; I always blame myself and I'm always the one to apologise. Always.

It's my fault that I'm not good enough. I'm sorry.

No, Soph. 'It isn't your fault, you are good enough and you have absolutely nothing to apologise for, so stop it.' This is what I need to start telling myself more often. This is what I do tell myself, when I'm having a good day. Those days when I'm happy with the way I look. Those day's when I feel super confident and like I can girl-boss the shit out of anything that is thrown my way that day. Those day's when I know that I am enough and those days when I know what I deserve.

The feeling of self-worth is always going to fluctuate. We can't have good days all of the time and we're always going to have little knock-backs and wobbles. But, if there's one thing that we can do, it's recognise when something, or someone, always makes that self-worth and self-esteem drop a little, and do something about it rather than let it carry on that way. 


It may be a little easier said than done at times, but once you start slowly removing these things from your life, you might just be amazed at how much happier you feel, and how many fewer bad days you might just have.

Soph

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  1. First of all, you look so stunning Sophie :) And this post.. so so relatable! I definitely tend to overanalyse a lot to, especially like you said what others say to me. It's completely normal to doubt yourself sometimes but we need to push those 'I'm not good enough' thoughts away. Thanks for the reminder x

    Sara’sChapters

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    1. Thank you, Sara :) We definitely need to push those thoughts away more often! Wouldn't it be fabulous if we could push them away altogether? x

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  2. I love love this post so much Soph <3 I can relate to everything you said, so I really needed to read this! You look so gorgeous too :) x

    https://monochromeroses.blogspot.co.uk

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  3. Fab post Soph and I really love the rebrand too! xxx
    Sophie Cliff

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    1. Thank you, Soph! I'm glad you like it :) xx

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  4. Where do you come up with all these amazing ideas Soph? I really look forward to reading your posts. You're an inspiration and I can relate to everything in this post x

    Dionne
    www.deedeelouise.com

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    1. Thank you so much, Dionne! That genuinely means so much :) Have a lovely day x

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  5. This is exactly where I am at in my life right now... and I really hope 2017 will be better for me. Another year like 2016 would kill me :/

    xx Lisa
    lisaautumn.com

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    1. I think it would kill us all, Lisa! I hope 2017 is fabulous for you, and I'm sure it will be :) x

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  6. First things first, you look absolutely gorgeous in these photographs. Secondly, this is probably the most relatable post I've read in a long time. We definitely need to be more confident in our skin, regardless of shape or size. We are good enough!

    Heather, Porcelain Beauty x

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    1. Thank you, Heather! I'm actually so glad you're able to relate... at least it's not just me who has these thoughts. There's something quite comforting in that, isn't there? Have a lovely day :) xx

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  7. It's definitely all about surrounding yourself with the positive! You are 100% good enough! Hope you had a lovely Christmas :)

    Jenny

    www.paperbackthrones.co.uk

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    1. Thank you, Jenny! I had a lovely time, thank you. I hope you did, too. xx

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  8. You're so right about the importance of knowing your own self-worth and reminding yourself about it. Other people shouldn't be able to make us feel bad and if they do, well, they're just not worth knowing - toxic people are not helpful in the pursuit of happiness. Fab post and lovely photos! x

    Bilgi x | Coconut Couture

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment, Bilgi. Cutting toxic people out of your life is one of the best things you can do for your own happiness, I agree :) x

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  9. Rock that Calvin Klein girl!! I can totally relate to this post. I always catch myself apologizing to others for just being me. I get knocked down at times and make myself start to believe that I'm missing something, that I'm not enough. But that's not true. We're all enough. Self worth is a journey that will have it's bumpy roads, but like you said, we need to recognize it and do something about it. Great post Sophie!

    Kathlyn | Kathlyn's Korner

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    1. Thank you, Kathlyn! That's definitely not true, we are all indeed enough. And I completely agree about self-worth being a journey. I couldn't have said it better myself! x

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  10. Sophie, this is the first time I'm on your blog and gosh, I'm glad I came.

    I think one of the most important thing I've learned about self-worth and self-confidence is that it's not going to stay linear and high up all the time. It's like life -- a constant change of ups and downs, but that doesn't mean that it's any worse than what it actually is. It all comes down to how one views, how one takes and how one handles the downs that will change the situation.

    Also, I think you look absolutely WONDERFUL in all of these photos.

    MAY | WWW.THEMAYDEN.COM

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    1. Oh, May! Thank you so much for your kind words.

      Your comment is so, so true. Particularly about how it's about how we handle the 'downs' that makes all the difference. I completely agree! x

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