Why it's okay to want, and need, time for yourself.

Has anything ever happened to you, that's knocked you a little? Like, you were doing so well. You were feeling confident, you had your anxiety under control and you were just about feeling like you were getting your life in check, and then BAM. Something hits you and you wobble for a little bit?

Yeah, me too.

It's times like this that I know that I need to take a little step back again and re-evaluate. Because I KNOW that I can go back to being my confident self. The girl that doesn't overthink everything as much and worries a little less. It just takes a little bit of time & self care.

It just takes a little bit of time to myself. Of doing the things that make me happy. Like,

... spending my weekends in bed doing nothing but writing.
... cosying up in my favourite chunky knit & a coffee in my hand & my favourite netflix show.
... spending hours reading inspirational blogs by my favourite people.
... investing in a little retail therapy.

And strangely, being alone with my own thoughts and making sense of everything in my head.


I say strangely, because sometimes this can be terribly dangerous, and if I'm feeling down, it can lead to the bad thoughts spiralling out of control. But, as long as I'm careful, taking the time to really think things through and get a little perspective, can really help in knocking some sense back into me and getting my mojo, motivation, and determination back.

There's nothing that feels better than feeling yourself, and feeling the best version of yourself. Feeling happy and content and full of positivity & confidence. Feeling like you know exactly what you want and how you're going to get it. Feeling determined to show people what you've got.

But, you're only going to be able to figure all of this out on your own, by spending time with, and investing in, yourself.

I've talked before about how I think it's so important to learn how to not depend on other people to be happy. And this is just one of the ways that I've learned to do this. While I also think that it's important to not struggle through things on your own, sometimes you really do just have to fight your own mental battles to come out the other side a stronger, and happier, you.

And that's exactly what I've done recently, and it feels pretty damn fabulous.



  1. i love this post so much! you couldn't have shared this at a better time. I hit a rut a few days ago and I've been feeling so discouraged and this has really helped so thankyou. I agree that spending time with yourself is incredibly important. you learn so much about yourself and achieve an attuned sense of confidence that i don't believe is achievable when around others.

    Also the photos convey an adorable notion of happiness. really wonderful.


  2. Love this post! I agree so much with what you're saying, sometimes a weekend curled up in bed writing is the best medicine. Spending time with yourself is the most important thing you can do! Also, these photos are stunning x


  3. Great post! I think self care now is even more important than ever with this social media climate of online hate, judgment and comparison.

    Abigail Alice x

  4. You are such an inspirational writer Soph, your words are so well written! This is a great post x


  5. What a lovely post hun! I think that it's SUPER important to take time for yourself. Some people may view it as selfish, but in the end you need to do what you need to do. Nothing makes me happier than cozying up with a warm cup of tea and reading/writing blogs all day as well! Sometimes I'll switch it up with Netflix as well ;)

    Have a wonderful weekend, hun!

    Lindsey Elyse | lindseyginge