I've stopped comparing myself to her.

She might be the girl who appears to have it all. She's got her life together, or she's successful at what you want to do.  She's the girl who's got something, or someone, that you wish you had.

You know who I'm talking about, right? The one who's forever in your 'most recent' searches on Instagram because you just can't help but check her social to check what her life's like today.

Well, I've promised myself that I'm gonna stop trying to constantly compare myself to her, and focus wholly on my life, my goals, and the people in it. Because, comparison really is the thief of joy sometimes, and well, you know me, I like to try and keep things happy!

I've compared myself to a lot of girls over the past few years. Constantly trying to analyse why they have something I don't. Wondering why my life isn't like theirs, or why I don't seem to have achieved as much as she has, or why I don't look like her 'cause blimey, how does she always look that good!?

And the absolute worst one? Wondering why she's good enough, and I'm not.

The second this thought pops into my head, I try to give myself a mental slap on the wrist for being so ridiculous (and I'm getting better at this!). I've let a lot of people make me not feel good enough in the past, but guess what? I'm done!

Learning the value of your own self worth isn't easy, but once you do, it makes such a huge difference. You stop letting little things get you down, you learn how to just brush things off, and most importantly, you stop comparing yourself to her.


Dress - c/o Quiz. Shoes - New Look. Bag - c/o Quiz. Watch - c/o Christian Paul

Photo's by Tasha.

If you're struggling with this, let me give you a little help.

You, my girly, are fabulous. You're beautiful and talented, and you will be successful. One day, you're going to have everything that matters to you, and you're just going to smile at how everything has worked out wonderfully. You're going to giggle at all the silly things you used to worry about, and be thankful for every single person that has wandered into your life, and the lessons they have taught you.

I've stopped comparing myself to her. Because yes, she might have some things that I don't, but I guarantee that I also have some things that she doesn't. We each have our own paths, and neither of us are moving at the same pace. I don't know her story, and she doesn't know mine. We're living different lives, and we will both have our own unique challenges and obstacles to get ourselves over, something which we won't post all over our social media.

'Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people.' 

So, the only person I'm comparing myself to now, is me. The old me, the me of a few years ago and the me of yesterday. I'm going to start challenging myself based on what I want my own life to look like, and not on what someone else's does. I'm embracing my own flaws, but I'm embracing everything that I know is good about myself, too. I'm feeling confident on the inside, and appearing confident on the outside, and trying to be the best version of me that I can.

Because after all, I'm me and not her. And honestly? I'm really rather quite happy with being me.


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  1. You somehow always manage to find the perfect words :) I've stopped comparing myself to other people too so I can completely focus on being the best version of myself & living my life the way I want to x


  2. Lovely post! I find myself doing this far too much.

    Ella xx


  3. The most negative thing that comes from social media apart from Haters is definitely the comparison! I hate comparing myself to others but at the same time love checking in on my favourite instagram accounts! You just have to keep grounded and be reminded that someone, somewhere probably looks at your life the same way as you admire someone else's.

    Abigail Alice x

  4. I couldn't have said it better myself. Comparison can be the thief of joy, and it has been in my life at times. I'm always getting better at not comparing myself to people, and feeling bad about something that they have that I don't. Now, whenever I see a girl post something on social media that I wish I had, I just use it as inspiration. If she can have this or do that, then so can I. Great post Sophie!

    Kathlyn | Kathlyn's Korner

  5. Damn love this post and this dress, the print is gorgeous! And yes yes yes, we all have to stop comparing ourselves to 'her', i can be so guilty of this but um getting better, id much rather be me, the happiest me i can be!

    Fashion Dew // Bloglovin'

  6. Love love love this post - I am so guilty of this! You also look fabulous. That dress is beautiful : ) xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x 💚

  7. So bloody right Soph! We all struggle with this, if only it was easy!

    Hannah | Oh January

  8. I do this a lot! It's very hard to stop sometimes but this is a very inspirational post! You look fab! x

    - Eternalleigh.blogspot.com

  9. I really needed this Soph! I'm in the comparison bubble right now and need to get out of it! This is such a lovely post! xxx

  10. I'm loving all of these inspirational posts at the moment Soph, keep it up :) x
    Sophie Cliff

  11. I love this! So well written x I wrote a post about how Comparison is the thief of Joy awhile ago!http://herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com/2016/07/comparison-is-thief-of-joy.html

    I love reading post like this, it is so inspirational :)

    Nikki O

  12. This post it's great! I've already stop comparing myself to others and I can say that you live a lot happier xxx

  13. This post contains such an important message. It's sad so many of us can actually relate to this and can straightaway think of that person we all long to be! A lovely post and gorgeous photos too :)

    I bet to so many people, you're the one people compare themselves to and don't even realise it.

    Emma xx

    A Little Freckle

  14. Thank you for this post, you have said out loud what I have felt in my heart for so many years. I feel like I'm not enough all time and don't measured up to "her".
    Thank you for being so real !!
    xo Celeste