What I'd tell the 'me' of a year ago.

What I'd tell the 'me' of a year ago.

I've been trying to ignore the fact that it is now nearly September, but I feel like I'm just gonna have to face the fact that 2016 has whizzed by so fast I feel like I've barely even caught a breath. Like, I absolutely adore Autumn and Winter and the coziness that comes along with it, but I don't feel quite prepared for them, yet! It feels like it was only yesterday my Instagram was filled with pink blossoms to mark the start of Spring, and here we are, closing in on Autumn and all of the Starbucks PSL Insta's instead!

 A lot can change in a year though, can't it? And it's why I'm always excited to look to the future, because so, so much might've changed in 12 months from now, and that always brings a little smile to my face.

A lot has definitely changed for me in the past year, so I thought I'd have a little bit of a reminisce, and write about what I'd tell the Soph of (nearly) September 2015.




What I'm Wearing - 
c/o Freya Lingerie, Longline Bra & Short in Candid.

Firstly, the next few months are going to be tough. Like, really tough, and I'm not going to even try and pretend they weren't. You're going to experience every emotion going nearly every week, and while there's a few exciting things coming your way, like Tasha moving into the flat and a very much needed getaway with the family, everything else... well, everything else is a little bit shit. You're going to cry. A lot. Particularly at work, so maybe hold off on the mascara for a few months.



I know that you hate your current job right now, it's stressful, kinda takes over your life, and that your manager makes you feel like you're the worst. They're also going to tell you to 'get over' your anxiety and panic attacks that work is causing you, but we won't delve too deep into that one, because current me has way too many thoughts on that right now, and it probably wouldn't be professional of me to say. But just a warning, IGNORE THEM.

Hold on in there, because in about 6 week's something unexpected is about to happen, which is going to introduce you to new people, and open the doors to a whole new opportunity.
Just one heads up though, listen to your gut. If it's telling you someone isn't telling you the truth, trust it, and not them.

By Christmas, you've realised that life's too short to be stuck in a job that makes you incredibly unhappy, and in a spur of the moment decision, you decide to be brave and take the biggest risk. I know, that doesn't sound like you, but trust me, it'll be one of the best things you ever do.



Here's a little bit of a spoiler for you, you're going to somehow, bag yourself what feels like the best job in the world, with the loveliest people to work with, and two wonderful bosses that actually make you feel valued. Oh, and it's going to be at the radio station you grew up listening to, so that's a bit of a cool added bonus.

In case you haven't guessed, you've still got your blog, which takes up most of your spare time besides going for coffee and the gym. Just like in 2015, it's going to bring you closer to some wonderful people, and opportunities and brand work that's so, so exciting. And if there's one thing that I can try and tell the future me, it's please don't ever stop creating content on your blog, it's already crazy being able to look back on 18 months.

At the beginning of 2016, you're going to try and cut down on the caffeine. However, sat here writing this with a Starbucks in hand, I can tell you that that's one of the things that didn't quite happen. But we both know how much we love coffee, so I'm sure that's not much of a surprise.

What is going to surprise you though, are people. You're going to meet a few people that really aren't going to be what you expected, but in a really nice way, that's got me smiling to myself just thinking about it.

But mostly, you're going to surprise yourself and what you can do, what you can achieve and how strong you really are. You're happy right now, the happiest you've ever been and I can promise you that it really does feel fabulous. I'm proud of us, so keep going.





Soph


How to make your day run smoother.

How to make your day run smoother.

Getting my mojo back.

Getting my mojo back.

I've stopped comparing myself to her.

I've stopped comparing myself to her.


She might be the girl who appears to have it all. She's got her life together, or she's successful at what you want to do.  She's the girl who's got something, or someone, that you wish you had.

You know who I'm talking about, right? The one who's forever in your 'most recent' searches on Instagram because you just can't help but check her social to check what her life's like today.

Well, I've promised myself that I'm gonna stop trying to constantly compare myself to her, and focus wholly on my life, my goals, and the people in it. Because, comparison really is the thief of joy sometimes, and well, you know me, I like to try and keep things happy!


I've compared myself to a lot of girls over the past few years. Constantly trying to analyse why they have something I don't. Wondering why my life isn't like theirs, or why I don't seem to have achieved as much as she has, or why I don't look like her 'cause blimey, how does she always look that good!?

And the absolute worst one? Wondering why she's good enough, and I'm not.

The second this thought pops into my head, I try to give myself a mental slap on the wrist for being so ridiculous (and I'm getting better at this!). I've let a lot of people make me not feel good enough in the past, but guess what? I'm done!

Learning the value of your own self worth isn't easy, but once you do, it makes such a huge difference. You stop letting little things get you down, you learn how to just brush things off, and most importantly, you stop comparing yourself to her.

WHAT I'M WEARING

Dress - c/o Quiz. Shoes - New Look. Bag - c/o Quiz. Watch - c/o Christian Paul

Photo's by Tasha.


If you're struggling with this, let me give you a little help.

You, my girly, are fabulous. You're beautiful and talented, and you will be successful. One day, you're going to have everything that matters to you, and you're just going to smile at how everything has worked out wonderfully. You're going to giggle at all the silly things you used to worry about, and be thankful for every single person that has wandered into your life, and the lessons they have taught you.



I've stopped comparing myself to her. Because yes, she might have some things that I don't, but I guarantee that I also have some things that she doesn't. We each have our own paths, and neither of us are moving at the same pace. I don't know her story, and she doesn't know mine. We're living different lives, and we will both have our own unique challenges and obstacles to get ourselves over, something which we won't post all over our social media.


'Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people.' 


So, the only person I'm comparing myself to now, is me. The old me, the me of a few years ago and the me of yesterday. I'm going to start challenging myself based on what I want my own life to look like, and not on what someone else's does. I'm embracing my own flaws, but I'm embracing everything that I know is good about myself, too. I'm feeling confident on the inside, and appearing confident on the outside, and trying to be the best version of me that I can.

Because after all, I'm me and not her. And honestly? I'm really rather quite happy with being me.



Soph



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Making your period that little bit better with Pink Parcel.

Making your period that little bit better with Pink Parcel.


Okay, let's face it. After those initial 3 minutes of relief that everything is working as it should, and a little confirmation that 'hey, you did good, you're not pregnant! Go and reward yourself with a chocolate biscuit (read, a whole share bag of chocolate buttons 'cause lol, hormones!)', who actually looks forward to getting their period?

Yeah, me neither. However, Pink Parcel are here to make your time of the month that little bit better. This is a subscription box with a bit of a twist. And by 'a twist', I mean delivering a parcel to your letter box close to when you're due on, filled with tea, treats, and of course, plenty of pads/tampons of your choice to get you through! Seriously, why has no one thought of this before?!


The parcel arrives with three different boxes, and a pouch. The pouch is labelled 'for now', and has a few pads in there to keep with you in your bag. There's also a 'for later' box, which has more pads for you to keep handy, as well as a 'for night' box, with well, night time pads! I don't know about you guys, but the one thing I always hate, is feeling like I can't lie on my back when I sleep when I'm on, please tell me this isn't just me!? So, for me, the night pads are a godsend!

When you order your box, as well as selecting when you're due on, so your box can arrive at just the right time, you can choose whether you prefer pads, liners or tampons. Pink Parcel stock most major brands, including Tampax, Always, Lil-lets, Organyc and Kotex. And trust me when I say, there's enough in the box to keep you going, you most definitely won't need to buy yourself any more! 


Then, of course there's the 'for you' box, which is most definitely the most exciting to open. This is the box with all the treats, and who can't resist tea and a little self-pampering session? In August's box, there was all of this;

- Teapigs matcha green tea
- Jealous sweets
- Sunkissed shimmer dust brush
- So Susan haute light pencil
- Cougar beauty 24 hour liquid lipstick
- Sass intimate perfect skin concentrate
- Emily fruit chips, crunchy apple
- Estella bartlett bracelet.

I don't know about you, but I absolutely love this idea. We all need a little pick me up around that time of the month, and a subscription service sending you exactly what you need, right when you need it, seems fabulous to me.

If I'm honest, I wasn't exactly sure what to expect when I was offered to be sent one of these boxes to review, but I'm genuinely so, so, pleasantly surprised. There's so much packed into each of the boxes, and I love the idea that it's curated for our individual needs, too!

Pink Parcel. It's a monthly thing.



Soph


Off-duty vibes with 4th & Reckless.

Off-duty vibes with 4th & Reckless.

One step at a time.

One step at a time.