Life, confidence, & a vow to being more fearless.

Right now, I feel like I could take on the world. I'm feeling inspired, happy and confident. And, I feel like I'm finally starting to get my sh*t together. Well, as close to that as any of us can ever get.

It's taken me a long time to get the point where I think I can finally say that I'm confident in myself. It's a topic that I think I've talked about a lot recently, but I feel like it's an important topic, and it's one that 13 year old me never, ever thought I would be able to discuss.

Self-confidence can come from a whole load of different places, and for me, I think things have really changed because I've made the changes to certain aspects of my life.

I've started to ditch the negativity, whether that be people that I follow on Twitter, or 'friends' that I realise only ever drain & bring others down. I've started to really watch other people that I think ooze all of the self confidence in the world, and then try and imagine myself being like them. I've started to really make a physical effort, with what I wear, eat & how much I exercise, and this alone makes a huge difference.

But, I think the most important change that I made, was the moment I realised that what other people think about me, really isn't any of my business.

I mean, obviously, if I'm giving off the impression that I'm a terrible person, then I'd probably want to know. But, if we're talking that Janet from accounts doesn't like my dress today, then what impact does that have on me? Do I care that Janet from accounts doesn't like my dress today? No, not anymore. Because I like my dress, so I'm going to wear it. (Yes, I'm aware I've started babbling, hang on in there a sec, I'll get to a point in a minute, I promise.)

I've learned that it's important to stop being scared. We're all judged whatever we do, and if we lived in fear of being judged, well, we'd never get anything done now, would we?

And I think this is the start of being more fearless. Being able to just jump right in to everything, focusing on looking ahead, and letting all of the negativity go right above our heads.

Take my blog for example, I was so, so close to never hitting 'sign up' to my blogger account, because 2 years ago I was so afraid of what everyone would think, and that people would laugh, that it was enough to nearly put me off.

But, thank the lord I didn't, because here we are, all of those 18 months later, having had the absolute best time, being given some amazing opportunities, and met the greatest of friends along the way, all because I decided I needed to stop being scared, and afraid of what other people think.

Taking photo's out in public was another big step. Like, yes, we do actually go and stand in the middle of the street, doing all of these funny poses while bemused passers by watch on. At one point, I'd have been too concerned about what all of these people thought, but, now I realise that their opinions really don't matter. I need to get these photo's done, so I'm going to do just that, and both myself and the passer-by are going to continue with our lives and probably never think about it again.

Once I realised this, the nervousness and awkwardness in front of the camera just completely disappeared.

What I'm wearing.
Top - ASOS. Jeans - Topshop Watch - c/o Daisy Dixon. Shoes & bag - H&M.

So, now I'm vowing to be more fearless. In everything, and not just with my blog. I want to stop overthinking everything, and just jump head first into trying to achieve what I want. I want to stop living my life within my comfort zone, as they say, and start doing things that I wouldn't normally be brave enough to do. Because after all, that's where all the fun starts, right? ;)

I've realised that the more I say 'yes' to new things, the easier it becomes. The less afraid I am of making a complete tit of myself, and of screwing everything up. This is slowly giving me more confidence in myself and what I can do.
The only limitations you will ever have, are the ones you set yourself. 

Realising who, and what, is wasting your time is another way that I think I've been able to completely shrug off a lot of the negativity at the minute. Leaving things behind is hard, but actually, when you learn to let go of situations, the long-term happiness is most definitely worth it. I'm in the middle of starting things over, I'm slowly starting to paint over all of those scars and bruises from the past, and making the best of starting new things.



  1. SOPHIE I?M HONESTLY SO IN LOVE WITH YOUR BLOG OMG! Every single one of your posts puts a smile on my face, inspires & motivates me and I want to thank you for that. I feel like I got a lot more confident in who I am this past year & blogging has definitely played a huge role in that. Like you said as well, I was so afraid of being judged for starting a blog but turns out it was the best decision I've ever made. I mean I'm still not the most confident person but I'm slowly getting there & it feels amazing :) x


  2. I really enjoyed this post. I used to spend a lot of time worrying what people would think of me and what I did. But as I've grown older, I've learned that I shouldn't let it affect me. I know that I don't take a huge amount of notice of the people around me, or certainly don't hold on to the thoughts I've had about them! And if I do that, then so does everyone else probably. I think some of it really is growing up - I'm fairly sure there's some good theories about brain development and learning that the world does not revolve around yourself. I've recently moved to a new city, have a new job and a bunch of brand new colleagues. I'm not going to be held back by the same anxieties and confidence issues that I had at school or uni.
    Jennifer x
    Ginevrella | Lifestyle Blog

  3. Such an inspiring and adorable post! I loved it and loved reading and looking at your pretty photographs! I love your blog. Keep up the good work and keep on being amazing! :) x

  4. Love this post!!! I'm finally starting to get all my life together and I totally agree - the only person you can limit you is yourself! We are the ones with all the power not someone telling you how you should be! Such a great post :).


  5. I'm so happy for you Sophie! Self confidence is a journey that I too have started, and I'm so happy I did. Although I'm not where I want to be, I'm growing more confident and secure in who I am, and what I love to do. When I started my blog, I was so scared to talk about it and promote it on social media because I had people from school following me, and I thought that they would think it's weird. Now? I don't care. I'm proud of my blog and it's content. If I want to talk about it, I will with utter confidence. I love love love this post. You're one of the most inspiring bloggers out there :)

    Kathlyn | Kathlyn's Korner

  6. You are so so right with all of this. I think confidence wise one of the things that gets me the most is caring what other people think and being worried about that, but once I let that go I know I'll feel such a sense of relief. Here's to being more fearless!

  7. Oh Soph I love this so much! Plus you look absolutely stunning! xxx

  8. You've done it again with another incredible and inspiring post! This confidence where you don't care what people think has been something I'm working on too. Isn't it a great feeling? Keep being amazing!
    Steph x.

  9. I am soooooo loving all of the positivity on your blog at the mo - it's one of my favourite reads :) x

    Sophie Cliff

  10. Soph, you are completely smashing it with your blog at the moment, staying so true to yourself! I love the amount of positive vibes and confidence it's oozing! It's the perfect place to visit for a pick me up :)

    Emmie |

  11. Girl, I cannot tell you how stunning you look. You are a bundle of absolute delight & watching you grow over the last year or so on the blog has been wonderful to watch. Keep doing what you are doing because you are on fire!
    Bee |

  12. This post is so lovely to read and it's super inspiring to hear about how your confidence has grown! I totally agree about people judging us regardless of what we do. It's something I agree with a lot, to the point where I will sometimes give very very (arguably overly) enthusiastic and passionate pep talks to everyone I know when they tell me they won't do something because of what other people think!

    rosario // rosarioverse xoxo

  13. I need to my ass into gear, I need some self confidence in my life! Love this post though, and as per, beautiful photos :) love your blouse!