Dear, my fellow twenty-something girls.

Dear, my fellow twenty-something girls, if there's one thing that I'd urge you to do at some point, it's to be on your own. It's to be on your own, and realise and learn that you're completely, and totally, and utterly okay. That you can handle whatever life is going to throw at you, that you're an independent lady who can make herself feel fabulous, and, without sounding cliche, you really don't need a significant other in your life all the time in order to be happy.

It means that you can make yourself happy. You can do all the things that you want to do. You don't have to wait around and you can just take yourself off to do whatever makes you smile, whenever you please.
'Very little is needed to make a happy life; it's all within yourself, in your way of thinking.' - Marcus Aurelius

It means learning where to find happiness without having to have someone else point you in the right direction. It means creating a fabulous and fun life, for yourself, that is going to be there whatever happens and whoever is in your life.

It means not losing yourself in a relationship. It means not letting bad relationships waste your time anymore. And it means learning so much about yourself that it does nothing but make you stronger.

It means having the time to focus on you. On you and your own goals. On getting smarter and more creative. It means being able to grab every opportunity, achieving things by yourself, and knowing full well just how to reward yourself. It means getting more confident and realising just how much there is to live for. It means being free and spontaneous, and being good enough for yourself.

So, if there's one thing that I'd urge every fellow twenty-something girl to do, it's to do one thing every day that makes you feel great. Even if it seems like the smallest thing, if it's something you do that makes you smile, do it. And never be ashamed of whatever that is. For me? It's curling my hair. Or buying pretty new underwear and dancing around in it. Or grabbing coffee to go. Or a HIIT session at the gym. Focus on doing you. 

Currently, I'm really enjoying focusing on doing me. I'm meeting new people, visiting new places, trying out new things, but throughout it all, I'm learning. Learning to be comfortable in myself, and with myself. And learning that stripping things back and focusing on what is and isn't important to me, is the best thing.



  1. This is a great post (and you look amazing by the way!). I love doing my own thing, looking after myself and learning to be comfortable with who I am so I totally understand the message in this post! :)
    Jennifer x
    Ginevrella | Lifestyle Blog

  2. I really needed to read this post, it's so important to remember that plenty of women are strong and happy on their own, it means you have as much time as you need to figure out what makes you happy. No one can ever really rely on others to make them happy as relationships can change, I'm currently trying to figure out my own path but every day it gets a little clearer :)
    Sophie x

  3. Firstly, you look bloody amazing! Secondly, I couldn't agree more - I've been dating for a bit now and I'm getting a little disheartened by it all so I think I'm just going to focus on me for a while and be on my own xx

    Sam // What I Know Now

  4. What a lovely, inspiring post! I totally agree that I think it's important to enjoy life on your own. I won't lie... I can't wait to fall in love and I'd be happy if it happened tomorrow. But until then, I can honestly say I'm happy and still enjoying life on my own :)

  5. This post is one of the best ones I've read in a while! For years I used to think that there has to be something wrong with me as no boy would like me and I was constantly trying to please others, whether for the opposite sex to like me or just in general trying to please everyone around me. It got MASSIVELY exhausting and finally I realised that there was absolutely no point in doing it! So now I'm a more confident, happy, friendly and warm because I do the things I do for me, not for someone else. Focusing on my needs and what makes me happy is probably one of the best things I've done in my life xx

  6. girl, you look absolutely gorgeous! <3
    and what a great post, everything you said is so true and inspiring!


  7. Firstly, you look amazing. Secondly, this post is amazing. I love the tip of doing one thing a day that makes you feel good. I'm definitely going to try doing that!

    Rachael at

  8. I adore this post! It's something I've been focused on for the past year - enjoying the single life and working out what makes me happy independent of anyone else. It's definitely a journey we must all take, I hope your post inspires others to think about it too.

    Liza xx

  9. Beautiful post! Just what I needed to hear! I get so caught up in other people's opinions or thinking of the future or what people will say and forget about what's important to me!

    Josie //

  10. First of all, you look gorgeous!! And this is such a good post, really hit home.

    Parie x

  11. Such a lovely and inspiring post! We tend to forget to do what makes us happy when we get so busy with work and relationships and other bits! It's important to remember to be good to ourselves too :)
    Lovely photos too!

    Lauren X

  12. Oh, what a beautiful post, Sophie! I'm not quite at the twenty-something age mark yet, but I think this is useful for any girl approaching and/or in the range. I hope you are well. x


  13. So true, I lived alone for a while in my early twenties and at first I thought I'd be lonely and bored, but I actually loved it. I whole heatedly agree that everyone should experience living alone at least once in their life its so freeing. x

  14. Great post! Just what I need to see is this kind of post! I've recently sat down with myself and realised I have lost myself in my relationship (it's not a bad one by any means)but I need to learn it's okay not to see him all the time and find things I want to do and enjoy when being by myself, I need to find myself again, a me that works well with a boyfriend and alone and I am so excited to try this out, I want to throw myself into my blog, I want to spend evenings reading and binge watching that program where I don't have to look at my phone often because I also want to talk to him, I don't need to 24/7 and I need to learn that! I hope I can and I hope it's easy haha!

  15. This is post is amazing Soph, such wise words! Although I am completely happy in my relationship, and I do see the boyf as one of my best mates, I do feel like I need to spend much more time doing ME. Doing what makes me happy and looking after myself, making myself feel 100% and sassy like I did in my single days! Also, you are looking stunning. Immy x

  16. Completely loved this post! recently coming out of a relationship i'm learning how to be happy and content with myself.. loving my independence more day by day and really trying to work on my goals that i pushed aside when i was in a relationship xx

  17. This is so relatable! you are so gorgeous!!

    Love Chloe-Rose xx

  18. I have to agree with this one. I'm 22 currently and I've been in a relationship for nearly 3 years where we're buying a house together. So I've had my fair share of "are you sure you're ready?" ... "what about taking time out?" but the thing is I've done this and I'm comfortable and confident enough within myself to make indpendent and good decisions.

    At uni I had a year abroad in Barcelona and I grew up quite quickly from having to sort out life in foregin country with a foreign language and I loved being alone and figuring it out without help. I learned so much about myeslf!

  19. This post is amazing. I think in your 20s you really are learning so much and it's definitely important to take time for yourself and figure out what makes you happy without anyone else being involved. It's a great age to be as we have that independence, we can support ourselves and we can make our own decisions to do what is best for us, and to do what makes us happy ��​

    Emma | Paper Planes and Caramel Waffles