Soz if this is a really cliche title, but for me, recently, this sentiment has been super important and really rather quite relevant.
I've made some um, questionable, shall we say, life choices over the past few months. Decisions that the super sensible part of my brain was shouting 'Hold up. Back up. Hang about. No. We're not doing this!' at me right from the minute the thoughts popped into my head. But, I made these decisions because I knew, really, that it was what I wanted to do, and what I felt was best for me.
In coming to the final decisions, I made sure that I did consider what impact, if any, it would have on those close to me, but ultimately I wasn't doing these things for anyone else but me.
I've never really done things the conventional way. I think I've mentioned a few times that I decided not to go to University, despite numerous attempts from some of my college tutors to really push me down that route, 'cause omg it would be a waste for you to stop your education here and you could really do well doing this degree.' Apparently.
But, I knew that that wasn't for me. I don't learn well by sitting and listening and writing notes. I learn the best by actually doing stuff. So sitting in lectures and seminars probably wouldn't have been that great for me. I knew this, so I did something about it. The stubborn gal inside me, persisted. I pushed back at my tutors and off I popped to the office instead.
I've also mentioned here that I don't drink. I have my own reasons for this choice, but being a twenty-something and not drinking is some-what of a strange concept to a lot of people. But again, the stubborn one that I am has never 'given in' to everyone who's ever tried to get me to just 'try it.' Soz, but it just ain't happening.
Most recently, I decided to quit my job. I know a lot of people quit their jobs, but I didn't just want to leave my job, I wanted a totally different career.
I've spent the last 3 1/2 years training to become a fully qualified, chartered accountant. And a little while ago, I realised that this probably wasn't the right career for me. At first, this was scary. Mainly because I started questioning all my decisions up until this point. Maybe I should've gone to University. Maybe I shouldn't have moved out. Maybe I should've done what all my friends were doing. But, then I realised that that wouldn't have been 'me doing me.' It would have been me trying to fit in and do like everyone else.
So, once I realised that this was a certain, that, actually a career in accountancy wasn't what I wanted anymore, the next question that I had to answer was, well, now what?
I had 2 choices;
Continue in a job that I really didn't enjoy, invest valuable time in sitting and completing exams that I really didn't want to do, for career prospects that I probably was never going to take.
Leave now. Find a job in an industry that I'm really excited about. Use and invest previously mentioned valuable time into something that I WANT to jump head first into instead, and have that determination to succeed.
Yep. No brainer when you put it like that, right?
I can't even tell you just how many people tried to talk me out of my decision to leave accountancy. I'm currently 6 weeks into my new job, and I'm still getting recruiters ringing me up multiple times trying to convince me that I should move back into the accountancy practice because there's 'fantastic career progression' there.
When it comes to making life choices, or any kind of decision for that matter, ultimately, you're the only one that's going to know what's best for you, and what it is that you really want. There's always going to be that gut feeling that one choice is the right choice, so, listen to it. No matter how much your head tries to convince you otherwise, follow your first instincts.
Honestly? I couldn't give two hoots.
I'm so much happier, and right now I'm not intending on changing anything about that.
You do you.