You do you.

Soz if this is a really cliche title, but for me, recently, this sentiment has been super important and really rather quite relevant. 

I've made some um, questionable, shall we say, life choices over the past few months. Decisions that the super sensible part of my brain was shouting 'Hold up. Back up. Hang about. No. We're not doing this!' at me right from the minute the thoughts popped into my head. But, I made these decisions because I knew, really, that it was what I wanted to do, and what I felt was best for me.

In coming to the final decisions, I made sure that I did consider what impact, if any, it would have on those close to me, but ultimately I wasn't doing these things for anyone else but me. 

I've never really done things the conventional way. I think I've mentioned a few times that I decided not to go to University, despite numerous attempts from some of my college tutors to really push me down that route, 'cause omg it would be a waste for you to stop your education here and you could really do well doing this degree.' Apparently. 

But, I knew that that wasn't for me. I don't learn well by sitting and listening and writing notes. I learn the best by actually doing stuff. So sitting in lectures and seminars probably wouldn't have been that great for me. I knew this, so I did something about it. The stubborn gal inside me, persisted. I pushed back at my tutors and off I popped to the office instead.

I've also mentioned here that I don't drink. I have my own reasons for this choice, but being a twenty-something and not drinking is some-what of a strange concept to a lot of people. But again, the stubborn one that I am has never 'given in' to everyone who's ever tried to get me to just 'try it.' Soz, but it just ain't happening.

Most recently, I decided to quit my job. I know a lot of people quit their jobs, but I didn't just want to leave my job, I wanted a totally different career.  

I've spent the last 3 1/2 years training to become a fully qualified, chartered accountant. And a little while ago, I realised that this probably wasn't the right career for me. At first, this was scary. Mainly because I started questioning all my decisions up until this point. Maybe I should've gone to University. Maybe I shouldn't have moved out. Maybe I should've done what all my friends were doing. But, then I realised that that wouldn't have been 'me doing me.' It would have been me trying to fit in and do like everyone else.

So, once I realised that this was a certain, that, actually a career in accountancy wasn't what I wanted anymore, the next question that I had to answer was, well, now what? 

I had 2 choices; 

Continue in a job that I really didn't enjoy, invest valuable time in sitting and completing exams that I really didn't want to do, for career prospects that I probably was never going to take.


Leave now. Find a job in an industry that I'm really excited about. Use and invest previously mentioned valuable time into something that I WANT to jump head first into instead, and have that determination to succeed. 

Yep. No brainer when you put it like that, right? 

I can't even tell you just how many people tried to talk me out of my decision to leave accountancy. I'm currently 6 weeks into my new job, and I'm still getting recruiters ringing me up multiple times trying to convince me that I should move back into the accountancy practice because there's 'fantastic career progression' there.

Honestly? I couldn't give two hoots.

I'm so much happier, and right now I'm not intending on changing anything about that. 

When it comes to making life choices, or any kind of decision for that matter, ultimately, you're the only one that's going to know what's best for you, and what it is that you really want. There's always going to be that gut feeling that one choice is the right choice, so, listen to it. No matter how much your head tries to convince you otherwise, follow your first instincts.

You do you.



  1. You are awesome. I love this so much and I'm so pleased for you - you're so right as well. You get one shot at life and you can't redo it. If you're not happy, then don't waste time doing something you don't love! Also, it's nice to read that you don't drink - I don't either and I feel exactly the same way you do about it xxx

    Sam // Samantha Betteridge

  2. You're fab. Big risks are always gonna perplex people, especially when it's a risk that, even though risky is going to help your long-term happiness. Because really that's what matters in the end. :) So glad you're so much happier right now :)

    Fii | little miss fii | uk fashion & lifestyle

  3. The most important thing is your happiness. I've decided to say 'fuck it' and move up to Birmingham to start university next year! Nobody thought I could do it but it felt like the right thing to do. Good luck in the new job, hope it continues to go well :-) x

    Emily -

  4. This is such an uplifting post - I totally agree, go with your gut feel. I'm not sure I'll be going off to uni, I hate exams and studying bores me so I think going for a job I know I'll love is best for me as well. Great post!

    Lucy | Forever September

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  6. I'm so happy that you're much happier now! Sometimes we just know ourselves what's the best for us, not anyone else! I hope you continue to follow your guts/heart and you'll go far! x


  7. GREAT post! I recently moved to a new city with no job, which was terrifying but a decision I needed to make. I needed a change. But it ended up working out for the best and I couldn't be happier! So, I relate to this post a lot. We have to take chances sometimes.

    Lee -

  8. This is so inspirational! I love that you've followed your heart despite people telling you to do differently. I'm happy that things are going so well for you! :)

  9. Yes Sophie! You keep doing YOU! I'm always worrying about the fact I've not done things the conventional way but if I did then I wouldn't be me! Xx

  10. WOO this is so inspirational - congrats on everything :)

    Hannah | Oh January

  11. Argh Sophie this post is so motivating - I did the whole university thing and in all honesty I think it was a complete waste of time and I've spent the past 10 years bumbling around from job to job doing what other people think I should because it's a "safe" career path. But I'm done with safe, I'm done with conforming to what other expect - it's time to be me and chase a dream!

    Emma |

  12. I love this & I couldn't agree more :) When it comes to making decisions we should only listen to ourselves. Sure, we can listen to peoples advice but we shouldn't let ourselves get influenced by it. At the end of the day you're the only one who has to live with a choice you make & the only thing that matters is that it's the right thing your YOU! I love the fact that you don't drink - I'm 18 & I never have and I probably never will. People think it's weird but I honestly couldn't care less x

    Sara / AboutLittleThiings

  13. I went to law school and absolutely hated it. I went back to working in fashion. It's been 6 years and it's still the best decision I ever made. No regrets

    Mel |

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  15. Aw this is such a nice post and I'm so happy for you Sophie! And I totally agree with all of your points! You do you! No matter what people might say, you do what you must do for yourself and your happiness! (haha made a typo so deleted my first comment)


  16. This is really inspiring! I agree with everything you said. 3 years ago, I din't want to go to uni/college as well. But I did. I ended up quitting after 2 months. I found a job in a drugstore which was fun for a while, but it was also just not what I wanted. I ended up quitting again and started college again. This time I chose something I liked and saw myself doing for the rest of my life. I hate school in general, I can sit here and cry all day about how I have to be in school for 2 more years. I hate studying, going to school, listening, sitting in those classes. I have thought about quitting again, but where I live, you don't get anywhere if you don't have a degree. Everyone wants experienced people, everyone wants someone who is 21 years old, with 30 years of experience, if I can say it likt that. Anyway, I wish I didn't have to go to school anymore, but hey, what's the 2 years huh? I just go to school, to get my future dreamjob, not because I like it. It is torture, but I will survive ;) I am glad you do you and that you're happy :)