The right kind of people.

Right now, if you were to ask me what I want from my life, I'd probably have to give you a bit of a cliché response, and say that I simply just want to be happy. Happy in myself, and happy that everyone around me is happy.

Final answer. I think.

We all want to be happy, right? I mean, I don't think any of us would purposely, or consciously do something that would make ourselves unhappy. Like eating broccoli. Nah, I kid. I mean, broccoli does make me upset, but I'm try'na be serious here. C'mon Soph. Focus.

So, why do we sometimes let other people make us unhappy? Who are they to dictate how we feel?
Why do we let certain situations make us unhappy because we simply can't be bothered, or because we're scared that we don't have any other plan in place?

I told myself at the beginning of the year, that my mission 2016 is going to be, for once, to do things for myself. To start to focus more on what is best for me, and start to put proper plans in place as to how I'm going to go about doing this. The first few weeks, I've started out focusing on my lifestyle, such as finding a new job and eating cleaner, whilst still making sure that I have the time and the money to treat myself every so often too. 'Cause a girl still needs a caramel latte with whipped cream and some new shoes every once in a while.

What I haven't really thought about up until now however, is the people that currently make up that lifestyle. I've said SO many times before, but I genuinely have some of THE best people in my life at the moment;

I have friends that are there for me no matter what or how long it's been since we've seen each other.
Friends that I can talk to about absolutely anything and that I know won't judge me one little bit.
Friends that know exactly how to make me laugh and cheer me up.
Friends that say things how they are, which at times is very muchly needed.
And friends that seem to have so much wisdom and knowledge already that I don't know how they're not like some kind of life coach or something.

But, I also still talk to some people who make me anxious. People who I'm afraid to say certain things in front of for fear that they'll just shoot me down. Friends that always have to have 'one up' on me. People who do and say things that I know are completely wrong, but I don't say anything because cutting people out of my life is hard and just not something that I'm used to doing.

Towards the end of last year, I reduced contact with someone who used to make me anxious. They didn't make me anxious when I was speaking to them, but it was afterwards, or when they weren't talking that would make me concerned. I was SO worried about what they thought of me and I didn't realise quite how much my relationship with this person was affecting me and getting me down.

Now, we talk every now and again, and it's great. We have a little joke and I'm not worrying over whether they took it the right way or not or omg did I really just offend them cause they didn't reply. 

This is something I need to start doing more, and learning that your relationship with someone may just be hindering your happiness rather than enhancing it.

Surround yourself with people that bring something positive to your life.



  1. I think 2015 definitely taught me to be rid of toxic people in my life and now I've done that I feel so much happier! xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

  2. Couldn't agree more, sometimes you need to cut toxic people out of your life (although that is easier said than done). Last year I stopped speaking to a school friend as I was beginning to feel like our friendship didn't matter to her anymore. I just stopped making the effort and she hasn't been in contact since. Its hard as we used to be close but its for the best as neither of us were benefiting from the relationship.

    Jen |

  3. As people grow, (wait for the cliché, just wait for it) people grow apart (bullseye). It's always a little bit sad to realise that you aren't as close to someone you once were friends with, but it's a sign of maturity to see and accept it. x Rebecca -

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  5. The older you get the easier it is to let go of toxic people. You don't care as much what other people think of you either as you become comfortable in your own skin. Growing older has its advantages let me tell you. Hope your 2016 brings you much joy xxx

  6. Hi,
    I found this post very true and inspirational.Great post!
    Have a good day!,

  7. Great post! Just found your blog :-)

  8. This post couldn't have come at a better time, my 'friends' have recently told me they don't want to live with me next year at uni which has left me with the prospect of having to now commute everyday. The thing that scares me the most though is never finding true friends though, I mean I have friends back home but what if I never make any other friends and I drift with the friends at home?! I think the hardest thing to do as an adult is learn how to make friends