I don't think we give ourselves enough love. I know I definitely don't.
There's a quote from Pretty Woman, (one of my all-time favourites) that sums up exactly how I feel sometimes;
'People put you down enough, you start to believe it… The bad stuff is easier to believe. You ever notice that?'
Vivian, I feel you. Whether it be an off-hand comment, someone's actions, or, simply, the way they make you feel, it really is so much easier to believe the things that make you feel a bit, well, rubbish. Maybe this is just coming from me being an over-thinker, and someone who analyses EVERYTHING anyway, but I've got a feeling that it's not just me.
I feel like we're in a society at the minute, where things like being proud of yourself, or accepting compliments without throwing them back is seen to be quite a bad thing. I'm SO bad at taking compliments, I just don't know what to do with myself, and I certainly don't know what to say...
Do I just say thank you? But then they might think I know the thing that they just complimented me on, and I don't wanna come across big headed. But then, is it gonna be super obvious if I now compliment them? Damn, I should have said it first. Then this wouldn't have been so awkward. Okay, yeah, now this is really awkward. Too much time has passed. You're just gonna have to smile and say thanks. It's okay, we can slip a compliment in later when they're not expecting it. Good plan, Soph.
Also, have you ever let someone treat you, well, not exactly great, and not really thought anything of it, because you hadn't really thought that maybe you deserve for them to have treated you better, or given you more of their time?
Both of these things make me feel kinda sad when I think about it. Why don't we all know our self-worth, all of the time. Why do we let some people take that away from us? And why does it get all awkward when someone points out the good things?
I've learned recently that self-love is so important. We need to be kind and gentle to ourselves, because heck, there's going to be a lot of people that aren't. We need to know when to give ourselves a break, to realise that making time just for you, isn't a bad thing at all.
We need to stop seeking approval and permission from someone else, allow ourselves to dream big without putting ourselves down, not feeling guilty for leaving a social situation early, because we feel tired and anxious, and we know that it's what's best for us, rather than staying to please everyone else.
Blogging has definitely given me a lot more self-confidence. Re-wind a year, and I definitely would not be posting photo's of myself on the internet. I wouldn't be posting anything about myself on the internet through fear of being judged by every single person out there. But now, I love doing it. It's something that I've learned to embrace, and I don't think about just how many people can see this stuff.
I'm super guilty of not giving myself enough self-love, but it's something that I've made a resolution to work on. After all, how can we be fabulous to others if we don't love ourselves first? ;)