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Hello, you! I'm Soph - a 22 year old girl currently living in Liverpool, spending most of her time writing, taking photo's, drinking coffee & trying not to eat too much cake.

Self-love.



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I don't think we give ourselves enough love. I know I definitely don't. 
There's a quote from Pretty Woman, (one of my all-time favourites) that sums up exactly how I feel sometimes;
'People put you down enough, you start to believe it… The bad stuff is easier to believe. You ever notice that?'
Vivian, I feel you. Whether it be an off-hand comment, someone's actions, or, simply, the way they make you feel, it really is so much easier to believe the things that make you feel a bit, well, rubbish. Maybe this is just coming from me being an over-thinker, and someone who analyses EVERYTHING anyway, but I've got a feeling that it's not just me. 
I feel like we're in a society at the minute, where things like being proud of yourself, or accepting compliments without throwing them back is seen to be quite a bad thing. I'm SO bad at taking compliments, I just don't know what to do with myself, and I certainly don't know what to say... 
Do I just say thank you? But then they might think I know the thing that they just complimented me on, and I don't wanna come across big headed. But then, is it gonna be super obvious if I now compliment them? Damn, I should have said it first. Then this wouldn't have been so awkward. Okay, yeah, now this is really awkward. Too much time has passed. You're just gonna have to smile and say thanks. It's okay, we can slip a compliment in later when they're not expecting it. Good plan, Soph.

Also, have you ever let someone treat you, well, not exactly great, and not really thought anything of it, because you hadn't really thought that maybe you deserve for them to have treated you better, or given you more of their time? 
Both of these things make me feel kinda sad when I think about it. Why don't we all know our self-worth, all of the time. Why do we let some people take that away from us? And why does it get all awkward when someone points out the good things?
I've learned recently that self-love is so important. We need to be kind and gentle to ourselves, because heck, there's going to be a lot of people that aren't. We need to know when to give ourselves a break, to realise that making time just for you, isn't a bad thing at all. 
We need to stop seeking approval and permission from someone else, allow ourselves to dream big without putting ourselves down, not feeling guilty for leaving a social situation early, because we feel tired and anxious, and we know that it's what's best for us, rather than staying to please everyone else.
Blogging has definitely given me a lot more self-confidence. Re-wind a year, and I definitely would not be posting photo's of myself on the internet. I wouldn't be posting anything about myself on the internet through fear of being judged by every single person out there. But now, I love doing it. It's something that I've learned to embrace, and I don't think about just how many people can see this stuff.
I'm super guilty of not giving myself enough self-love, but it's something that I've made a resolution to work on. After all, how can we be fabulous to others if we don't love ourselves first? ;)
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  1. I love this post and did one so similar a few weeks ago too so we are 100% on the same wave length! I think it's so important to take care of ourselves and accept that actually, we're alright as human beings. If we don't, then who will? xx

    Sam // Samantha Betteridge

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    1. Thank you Samantha, I'll go have a little read of yours too! xx

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  2. Love this post Soph! I totally relate to it too - I think some of us are just awful at hurting/offending others. For example you said about leaving social situations early... I feel so bad when I get a bit anxious and want to go home early, but like why should I feel bad? I should look after myself first and check that I'm okay - but then is that selfish?! AAAGH.

    Robyn / www.phasesofrobyn.com

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    1. Thanks Robyn! Exactly! It's like a mental argument you have to have with yourself, and you've just got to try and be firm and be like, GO HOME SOPH. haha, hope you're okay chick! :) xx

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  3. Lovely post Soph - I'm the exact same when someone compliments me, I'm sort of stuck not knowing what to do haha! I definitely need to love myself a bit more and start accepting compliments.

    Lucy | www.foreverseptemberr.blogspot.co.uk

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  4. This post is everything I've been thinking about this year.
    In the past I've beaten myself up a lot and let people make me feel pretty worthless. It's a very deeply ingrained issue of not liking myself at all and it's something I'm trying my utmost to work on.
    I'm constantly reminding myself that I'm awesome and worthy of love, from myself as well as others. If i catch myself wishing I wasn't this or that, or wishing I was more like someone else, I stop and remind myself that I'm brilliant. My acheivements and my personality are valid and worthy and so are yours.
    Always give yourself permission to love yourself, the world only has one of you and being you is awesome so give yourself a bit of an ego boost every day :)


    Sarah | Sarah's Chapter

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    1. What you've just said resonates with me so much, I know exactly how you feel and what you mean! Thank you for reading Sarah, I hope you're okay! :) xx

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  5. This is the most perfect post Soph. If we all showed a little more self love it would make a world of difference to us and the people around us.

    www.ohjanuary.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Hannah! It definitely would, I hope more people can do it :) xx

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  6. This is a fantastic post and we definitely need more of this in the blogging world I feel! I'm like you in that I find it difficult to take compliments, it's odd but I think I'd be able to take something negative easier! Self-love is definitely something I need to learn.

    Musings & More

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    1. Thank you Emily! I think we do all need to learn it ha! Thank you for reading lady! :) x

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  7. I hear you! Seriously this is so important. I remember telling my sister a few years ago I finally felt happy with my body the way it was and she was like that's a bit big headed and I was what? That is how we should be! We shouldn't be picking faults with ourselves constantly but instead loving ourselves and then we can better love others! Such a good post! xx

    http://www.lifewiththeroofdown.com/

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  8. I've come to realise that no matter what you do, you'll get judged and complimented all the same but I've realised that no one makes you feel or do anything, we allow it. So with this notion, I've taken my life's by the horns so to speak and I'm doing everything that scares me and it feels great. Self love is where it's at and I think society has become a lot more accepting than say 5 years ago. xxx

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  9. I've come to realise that no matter what you do, you'll get judged and complimented all the same but I've realised that no one makes you feel or do anything, we allow it. So with this notion, I've taken my life's by the horns so to speak and I'm doing everything that scares me and it feels great. Self love is where it's at and I think society has become a lot more accepting than say 5 years ago. xxx

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  10. Lovely post. I never know what to say or do when I receive a compliment. I think sometimes my slightly horrified facial expression only makes it worse!

    If only we all had a little more self-love, how brighter the world might be!

    Jemma | http://thesweetpea-life.blogspot.co.uk

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