You don't meet people by accident.
You're exactly where you're supposed to be.
I saw these two quotes on Instagram last week, and not only did they hit me quite hard and got me thinking about this blog post, they kinda re-iterated to me what I've been thinking for a while, but have also helped me with some personal things a little.
Sometimes it just takes someone else to tell you what you already know.
I think I've mentioned before that I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason, and I guess these thoughts aren't a million miles off that either. I also believe that you can learn a lot from people, no matter who they are, or how long they've been in your life for, if they're there, they're probably there for a reason.
The second quote, I like to think about in two ways. Literally, and not-so literally. Wherever you are right now, physically, is where you're at. There's been a series of events that has led you to be right there, right now. But you're also exactly where you're supposed to be in life. I don't think anyone can say that their life is what they imagined at the age you're at now. I know that when I was in school, I thought 21 was SO old, that I'd have a great big plan and know exactly how and when I was going to achieve what I want. In reality? Not so much. At all. In fact, I'm so far off this the only thing I can do is laugh...
Think back to how you met some of the people that are in your life right now, I bet there's a few coincidences in there, right? Being in the right place, at the right time and all that? I used to think life was made up of a lot of coincidences, but now I think about it a little differently. You were exactly where you were supposed to be. And you didn't cross paths with that person by accident.
Something happened a few weeks ago that kinda summed up both. It was a Friday evening and I was planning on going to the gym at 8. However, N had just got back in and for once we were both in the flat at the same time! This is rather a rare occurrence. So, we took the opportunity and had a good catch up on anything and everything that had been going on in our lives in the last few weeks. Work, men, our new and improved life plans, changes in eating habits... you name it, we probably talked about it. I also then needed to take a quick few blog photo's, so by the time I actually started getting ready for the gym it was already about 20.45. Then, after the slow walk over the road, I was a whole hour later than planned.
But this actually turned out for the best, because about 5 minutes after I walked in, I bumped into someone there who I hadn't seen in months. Queue 20 minutes of another life catch up on a stationary treadmill, followed by pancakes and bacon, and for once, I'm so glad that I was running late. Not only has it been great catching up with this person, but they've already helped me and influenced a pretty big decision of mine.
If N hadn't had come back to the flat, if I hadn't had started this blog and needed to take blog photo's, heck, if I hadn't had some motivation appear from somewhere and get back to the gym a few weeks ago, I'd have never have bumped into them on this day, at that time, and I could be in a pretty crap situation right now if it hadn't had been for their advice over those previously mentioned pancakes... (Moose coffee, I feel like you need to take some credit here too. If you haven't had Moose pancakes yet, you're missing out. Big time.)
Anywhoooo, there's always going to be people that come in and out of your life. And when someone leaves, it can hurt. There's sometimes no other way to describe it apart from it just hurts. Which leads me on to this, something else I like think about sometimes...
Don't cry because it's over, smile because it's happened.
This one... now this one helps. We can learn so much from the people that we meet. Whether we only know them for a short period of time, or whether they become friends for life. And I can definitely say, that in particular the last year, I've met so many new people, and been taught so many different life lessons that I'll be forever thankful for. Sometimes it's great to take a little time to reflect on what people have brought and added to your thoughts and your life.
My whole perspective on so many things has changed, some small, but mostly, it's been pretty big and eye-opening stuff. And do you know what, I can smile about it, because even though, like I said, it can be crap when someone leaves, or when your relationship with that person changes, when you used to speak everyday and now it's just the odd, 'how's life?' every so often, when you can sense that your lives are taking different directions, you can start to wonder whether it would have been better and easier to have never met them in the first place.
But do you know what, at one point, that someone or something was making you smile, and you should never regret anything that makes you smile. Some people are just meant to stay with you for a little while, and it's normally these people that you can learn from the most.