Let's get some perspective




Today I realised that I've not rambled on about life for a while, so I thought it was about time I did. I love writing these kind of posts. Sat with my Mac on my bed, candles lit, a cup of tea to hand and just being able to write down some of the many things that are flying about in my head. And that's a lot of things.
If anyone's been unfortunate enough to have me vent to them recently, you'll know that I'm at a little bit of a crossroads.. in life,  with no clue which direction to take. I mention in my post, A Little Lost (here) that I feel, well, a little lost.
' I worry that I don't know where I'm going in life. That I don’t really know what I want to do, I'm not entirely sure what I want to have achieved by the time I'm too old to care.'
The fact that I wrote this over two months ago is really scary. Like, how are we in May already?! But I guess this just re-enforces to me what I want to chat about. I've probably said this way too many times already, but life really is too short.
I've had this thrown at me a few times recently, but one time in particular really made it sink in. I was casually people watching and I'd spotted a group of friends living in our 'older generation', shall we say. Listening to the conversation, their daily struggles, health problems, and actually, what they consider to be 'exciting' parts of their lives, I just thought out loud, 'I don't want to get old.' To which I received the response, 'Don't worry, you might not get there.' Thanks for that Aaron.  
Every time he goes to work, there's a chance Aaron's going to see just this. People not being able to live their lives anymore. It could happen to any of us, at any time. I'm super guilty of worrying and stressing about stupid things that really, are not worth worrying about. A lot of us now have extremely busy lifestyles; going to work, trying to study, ensuring you keep yourself fit, keeping up with hobbies, making sure you have time to spend with family, while still trying to squeeze in time to socialise with your friends to keep ourselves sane. Oh, and trying to keep everyone around you happy in the process too. It can get crazy, pretty quick.  So forgetting about what really are the important things can be easy. Especially when it's the important things that you tend to have less time for.



So, think about this. If you work full time, you're probably typically spending 5 out of your 7 days a week at work. Doing whatever it is you do to make a living, because let's face it, there's not many of us that could say we'd voluntarily do what we do, if we didn't have to, right? (If you're one of the lucky ones, love your job and would do it voluntarily.. you might wanna skip this next bit!) That's a massive part of your week, that will gradually turn into a massive part of your life over the years.
But really, is this more important than spending time with your friends or relatives? Are you going to look back, when you're approaching 90 and think, do you know what, I'm so glad I spent all that time on that work project? No. Are you going to think, actually, all that time I spent stressed was completely worth it? No. You're going to be remembering (at the risk of going all super cheesy) all the laughs you've had with your friends. The crazy and stupid things you've done that make for great stories over a few drinks. The lovely family gatherings you've had with those you haven't seen in months because of previously mentioned busy lifestyle. You're going to remember the times you were happiest and care-free.
So unless you know something's going to make you really happy at the end of it, I think we need to stop worrying about it. This is something else people try and shout at me too, what will worrying and stress actually do to help? Nothing. Zilch. Nadda.
If you get stressed, just stop, take a minute and think about what's actually going to happen if you don't quite meet that deadline, quite get the grade you wanted in an exam, or if something you want to say comes out a bit wrong. Unless someone's going to die, or get hurt, how important is it, really?
We grow up being taught how important it is to work hard to achieve what you want, but also to make sure we only do what we want. I think we forget this sometimes.
Life can be amazing, and beautiful, and crazy but it can also pass us by extremely quickly.
Do more of what makes you happy. This is definitely next on my to-do list.
Soph
 ♥

25 comments

  1. I really love this post and think that you're totally right! Sometimes it really is so important to just take a step back and breathe (:
    Thanks so much for sharing!

    Imii xox | nettleandblackberry.com

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  2. I really love this post and think that you're totally right! Sometimes it really is so important to just take a step back and breathe (:
    Thanks so much for sharing!

    Imii xox | nettleandblackberry.com

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    1. Thank you Imii! It really is :) Thank you for reading!

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  3. This such a beautiful post, thank you for sharing your thoughts! Liza x

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  4. Such an inspiring post, I constantly think everything you said, I;m just scared to implement it I think!
    Jodie xo // JodieLoue

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    1. Thanks Jodie! I'm glad you enjoyed it xx

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  5. I totally love this post! Whenever I am worrying about things, I always try and think that I am so so lucky that me, my friends and my family have our health. It really is something that can be taken for granted and I try my hardest not to.

    When I was at school, my dad always said to me that when I was his age and looking back on my school years, I wouldn't remember hardly any of the lessons... maybe the odd teacher who was inspiring and the odd hilarious lesson that would occur now and again... but not the whole, day t day life would not really imprint in my memories. Instead, he said, it is the extra curricular things that you do that that will stay with you forever. I was always encouraged to do loads of things outside of school for this reason and I am SO glad that did. I made so many friends, and made some great memories from dancing, playing music, going on school trips etc and just sleepovers with friends.

    Reading your posts like this really make me want to write more thought provoking blog posts! I have been thinking of starting a series of more thoughtful pieces... after my dissertation deadline I think I might give them a go. I always love reading yours :)

    Sarah xxx || www.whatsasssays.com

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  6. (Just realised I totally wrote an essay comment here haha)

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    1. Exactly! It's so important to remember this kind of stuff sometimes!

      That is so true and looking back I wish someone would've told me the same thing! Thank you so much Sarah, I'm really glad someone enjoys reading them ha! Definitely do! I'll be the first one to give them a read! xx

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  7. my dad told me once that if you work doing what you love, you won't have to work any single day in your life, and he is right.
    x,abril
    The Color Palette

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  8. Eeeek Sophie, I am SO guilty of this right now! My days are literally spent working away on my uni projects and I am so worried and stressed. It is difficult to remember the little things sometimes and the most important things too. The person you described who is trying to juggle so many things like keeping fit, uni work, my part time job, socialising, etc.. is me!! This post really puts things into perspective. I have two weeks left of uni and then I will definitely be making time to enjoy the little things in life. Great post lovely xxxx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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    1. Haha, it can be so hard at times and sometimes things just have to take priority don't they! I'm sure finishing Uni will feel great and amazing itself! Thank you sweet :) xx

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  9. Ah I love your posts - they're always so thoughtful and seem to read my mind perfectly! I couldn't agree more with what you've said. I'm at a point now where I just try to think 'I work to live' and not 'I live to work' and no matter how crappy my job it gets - it's just a job. Family, friends and health are SO much more important than a job or other materialistic stuff and it's a shame that the society we live in means we don't get to spend as much time doing the things we love as we'd like!

    Beth x
    Bethany Georgina

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    1. Thanks Beth! Haha, I'm glad :) Definitely... it's just a job, and I so couldn't agree more! :)

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  10. YES SOPHIE. I try and drum this into people's heads all the time, yet I never actually take my own advice. I SO need to stop fretting about shit that doesn't even matter in the grand scheme of things. And I need to do more! I need to stop spending 50% of my time worried and the remaining 50% sat in bed wallowing.

    Awesome post, Soph xxxx

    Rhianna | robowecop

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    1. Thanks Rhi! Haha oh I'm so guilty of this it's untrue! We can try to get better at it together! xxx

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  11. Love love love this! So important to stop the worrying and just make the most of life. I need to start being more productive and enjoying life and forgetting about things that aren't worth my time x

    Amanda / Amanda's Escape

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    1. Thanks Amanda! It really is, I feel like we all worry A LOT! Definitely, I think we'll feel better for it :) x

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  12. Oh Sophie I agree with this so much! Sadly most of us do have to work full time to make ends meet, but why does that mean we can't have fun and take time out for ourselves? Like you said, I want to remember all the laughs I have with friends, not all the hair pulling late at night over some work haha! :)

    Recently I've just been working, working, working and not doing much else but I'm slowly starting to take time for myself again, and it feels so good! :)

    Hazel xx

    hazeljane.co.uk

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    1. Exactly! Just thinking about it at times makes you wonder why we do some of the stuff we do for work!

      That's so good, and I'm so glad :) xx

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  13. Totally get how you're feeling. Time just goes by so quickly it's kind of scary, we really need to make the most of every day and do what makes us happy x

    Sinead | Dreaming Again

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  14. I completely get this post. I always felt the pressure to work to earn money but now I won't settle for a job that I don't enjoy, life is too short for that kinda malarky! :)

    Em x

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