I don't drink.



There. I said it.

For some reason, you only have to utter these three words when you're out and it feels like every person within a three mile radius turns around and looks at you like you've just magically grown three heads. With bells on. But personally, I've never had an issue with it, and it always makes me wonder what the big deal is.

Okay, okay, so I'm aware that at nearly 21, about to dive head first into what are to be 'the best years of my life' ( or so I'm told ), choosing not to drink alcohol must seem pretty weird to some, and I understand why people ask. I really do.  But it's this that kinda baffles me sometimes. I probably spent at least two or three years of my life, constantly trying to think of little excuses as to why I wasn't going to drink. I think I was always scared that people were going to judge me as 'boring' for being teetotal.

If I'm honest, there's still a feeling of having to justify why I don't drink. Simply, 'I just don't want to.' doesn't seem to cut it. And trying to explain this to someone, particularly if this person has already enjoyed a few cocktails themselves, can be a little bit tricky.  

No, I am not going to just 'try one', so please stop asking me to. 
No, I won't 'have' to have a drink if you buy it, so please don't waste your money either because I'm not going to drink it.
And no, it wouldn't be amusing to see if I would be able to tell the difference between a glass of vodka and a glass of water. I'm pretty sure even I'm not that daft!

The thing that gets me the most at times is that you wouldn't try and pressure someone into trying to smoke, or taking drugs. So why try and make someone drink if they don't want to? I guess it's the un-acceptance from others that baffles me sometimes.
( Disclaimer - when I say 'others' and 'people' I don't mean everyone. I have a lot of lovely people around me, especially now, that completely understand and have never questioned my choice, and I love you lot! )
There isn't any particular reason why I choose not to drink. It's not a religious thing, it's not a health thing, I just simply have never been curious to try it ( Although, I would love to see what kind of 'drunk' person I'd make. I'd like to think I'd be a happy drunk... ). I believe that you can go out and still have a bloody good time without it. Or the following mornings hangover.

At the same time I have no problem with people around me drinking. My friends and family all drink, and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. People sometimes presume that because I don't drink, I would feel uncomfortable around any kind of alcohol. Come on folks, if you're sat next to me with a glass of red wine in your hand, I'm not going to suddenly combust on the spot. You don't have to ask me if it's okay for you to drink. It's completely and totally and utterly okay. It couldn't be less of a problem.

Someone once told me that me not drinking made them feel uncomfortable. Which then made me feel uncomfortable. And then there was just a whole load of unnecessary uncomfortableness going on...

The only difference between me and you going for drinks, ( aside from being able to convince you of the many fabulous but fabricated things that you did last night... well, I've got to have a bit of fun with this right? ) is that I can wake up feeling perfectly fresh and a bit more money to save for a rainy day. *ahem* Okay for shopping. But you get me.

Personally, I don't feel like I need a drink to have a good night out. Alcohol doesn't give me my friends, the laughs, or the ability to get up and dance. I'm perfectly capable of getting up on the dance floor and showing the world my inner Beyoncé by myself. The latter maybe not being so much of a good thing.. but everyone else is drunk so who cares?!

I guess there were a few reasons why I wanted to write this post. I wanted to just chat a little as to what it's like being the 'teetotal one', as people are often curious! But also, I'm guessing there's a lot of people who also don't fancy a drink, so I'm hoping that there's at least someone who can relate, and maybe show you that it's okay to go against the flow of everyone else if you don't want to every once in a while.
If you want to go out and have a drink, go out and have a drink. If you want to go out and not have a drink, go out and not have a drink! We can have just as good of a time, promise!

Soph

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  1. YES!!! I completely agree with this post! When I was just turning 17 me and my friends at the time would drink at parties etc but I was never a fan, I hated the taste, hated the hangovers and I didn't like the way I acted when I was drunk ( im a very hyper annoying drunk) so about a year ago I stopped and it was the best decision ever! No more hangovers and a hell of a lot more money, but now I always get the 'so what do you do for fun?' 'Why did you go out if you're not going to drink?' its so annoying, if you don't want to drink people should just respect that, its our choice!!! x
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    1. I'm glad you made the decision and it was right for you! Haha, yes! Exactly! I'm so glad you liked the post :) x

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  2. Good for you girl! I've been called boring before because I wasn't drinking and it annoys me because you don't have to drink to be fun or have fun! Hangovers are the worst and I hate feeling out of control. I will have a drink if I'm celebrating but I will never get wasted. I raise my diet coke glass to you and all the fun you'll have without consuming alcohol!x

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    1. Thanks Eleanor! You definitely don't need to drink to have fun :) haha yes! I'm seconding that! :) x

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  3. Good for you. I drink, I guess because that's just what everyone seems to do. Yes I enjoy a drink but gone are the days of getting completely mortal. I actually think it would do the world of good for people our age to not rely as much on alcohol for socialising. Like can't we all go hiking or something different for once. Also perks to not drinking are: no hangovers, less calories and no embrassing 'what the hell happened last might scenarios' x

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    1. Thanks Fiona :) yeah definitely, I completely agree and that's such a good idea ha! x

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  4. I'm really digging this post. People always assume that if you don't drink you're either crazy religious, or just a bit of a weirdo. And that's so stupid. No one looks at you all weird if you like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, and that really IS odd - it's just preference.
    You keep on doing you! It's brilliant.

    xx lacoconoire.com

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    1. Ahh thank you so much Katie! Yeah exactly, haha I love that analogy! x

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  5. Personally I love a good drink but I always respect people when they make their own decisions not to drink, I have a lot of friends who don't drink(mostly for religious reasons) but even if not I wouldn't dream of trying to pressure them. As long as people have a laugh and a good time with me I don't really care! :) you do what you wanna do! x
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    1. That's a really lovely attitude to have and I wish everyone would think like you Laura :) It would make things a lot less awkward at times! :) x

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  6. I love this post. I used to go out and get absolutely smashed several nights a week in my first year of university and the thought of a hangover now really puts me off so I just don't go out as much anymore. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy a drink or two when out with friends, but I have decided to stop getting in a ridiculous state and to enjoy my nights without downing every Jager Bomb in sight. I feel so much better just sticking to one or two drinks and then waking up fresh the next day. But I am sick of people nagging me to drink - it's so annoying! xx

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    1. Thanks Jessie :) You can definitely enjoy nights out without copious amounts of alcohol! Waking up fresh is always lovely too. And yes, oh so annoying! x

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  7. Don't feel like you're weird or the only one out there. I never used to drink, in fact the first time I drank anything was at my 27th birthday! My brother gave me a mojito and suggested I let loose as I had just been dumped by my boyfriend (11 year relationship) on my birthday and over the phone. Oh and he was cheating on me with an underage girl.
    Since then I sometimes have a couple of drinks with friends, but I never feel the need to or the pressure to. In my case it was liberating to realize I could or could not drink if I wanted to, before I was strict with myself and didn't dare! I sort of felt like you being pressured into trying a drink and I was stubborn and didn't just because. Now it's just no big deal, if I feel like a glass or two I will, if not, I won't!
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    1. I'm beginning to realise that I'm definitely not the only one out there and I love it! Oh no! I'm sorry to hear about your ex, that's so awful.
      But yeah, I can imagine it feels good to feel like that! Good on you, and keep with it! :) x

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  8. Great post. I too don't drink alcohol, this is purely by choice and also because of health conditions. I always have a great time if I go out to a club and just have a glass of orange juice or bottled water. I don't need to drink alcohol to have a good time. Also due to health conditions, it's not worth it. I have drank alcohol in the past and it's not nice ending up being ill. I love drinking fruit teas, herbal teas and water. My skin is so much better for it too.
    Clem xx
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    1. Thank you Clem :) Orange juice and bottled water is the way forward ;) Oh my goodness and tea! xx

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  9. Great post!

    Glad that someone else is in exactly the same boat as me. I don't drink,didn't at all through my teens bar literally two times which were terrible. And people think it's SO WEIRD. It's not weird at all though. I don't like the taste and how it makes me feel, plus it saves me so much money.

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    1. Thank you Meg! It really isn't weird and I don't understand why people have an issue with it! It definitely saves oh so much money doesn't it! x

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  10. What a great post, I'm nearly 22 and whenever I say I don't drink I'm met with such a similar response. I'm never one to criticise people for drinking, so it's always odd to me when it's the other way round.

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    1. Thank you Courtney! Yeah exactly, I just don't get people's reactions sometimes! x

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  11. Not weird at all!

    I don't drink much at all. Often I'm pretty happy just not having a drink and it drives some people insane, because the don't understand that you can have a great time without.

    I drink the same way I do anything else in fact. If I really like the alcohol, and I'm enjoying it, then I'll have it. Not to get drunk -which is why most people drink- but because it's nice. If I don't enjoy it / feel like it, what's the point?

    Mathilde x
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    1. Haha exactly! I kinda want them all to try it to see that you don't always need alcohol.
      Thank you for reading lovely! x

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  12. My sister (who is my bestie) doesn't drink, and never has; it was a choice she made before she was 21 as well. I've never had an issue with it because she doesn't judge me for it, and I don't pressure her! We always have a good time. Unfortunately for me, her being sober means she remembers vividly every stupid thing I do or say and has a good time teasing me about it even years later :).

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    1. That's lovely! But yes, being able to remember everything is always such a plus point haha! x

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  13. Recently I've definitely drank a lot less I just don't see the appeal so much, it doesn't taste as good as squash and it makes me feel shitty the next day! I still do enjoy drinks now and then but I definitely prefer to not be hungover!

    Emma x
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  14. So glad i read this. If you have a personality you won't feel the need to get drunk to have fun xxx

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  15. I definitely resonate with this. I drink on the rarest of occasions, and even then it's just cocktails that are basically just juice haha! I just don't really like the taste, and my body doesn't agree with it - so what's the point?!

    I completely agree with hating people pressuring you to drink, you don't do it with anything else, so why with alcohol? It's sometimes insulting and its a shame that some people can't appreciate that others don't like alcohol, just like we appreciate that people do like alcohol - and we're perfectly okay with that.

    Great post lovely!

    Hazel xx

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  16. This is such a great post and I've been there. I've drunk alcohol in the past, but not for the past 10 years and it's made no difference to my life other than the reaction of some of the people around me. I fully agree with all of your points and hope that your current friends continue to be supportive. It was a bit of a battle at first, but isn't really an issue for me anymore.

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  17. I loved this post, I do drink but I also don't feel that I HAVE to drink to have fun. I am often the designated driver and still have just as much fun as everyone else... maybe more! I don't think it is ok for anyone to ever feel pressured into doing anything they don't want to do and the idea that you not drinking makes someone else uncomfortable baffles me! Keep being you you seem to be excellent at it! :) xx

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