Why do we...?

We live in a society governed by rules, but those rules were decided long before any of us were alive.
So. Talk to me. 

A lot of my blog posts seem to be inspired by others at the minute. Other people, what they say and how they perceive this little thing we call life. I'm quite a thinker. Living on the docks gives me a lot of time and the perfect space to think. I like to think about what things mean and what they could mean to other people, probably a bit more than Harry currently sat next to me in this coffee house, who's been sat on his phone for a good hour before randomly turning and asking me, 

'Where in the nursery rhyme does it say that Humpty Dumpty is an egg?'

...I don't even want to know what he'd been doing on his phone all that time for that question to pop into his head. Although, to be fair, he's got a point.

Someone said the first lines to me a few days ago and it really hit me, hard. We abide by so many rules, both written and unwritten, every single day, that we never question. But why do never question them? Why do we go along so willingly with social rules in particular, that we never agreed to in the first place.

We all see things differently, and I don't think this was proved any greater than with 'The Dress' phenomenon that graced all our twitter feeds last week (I don't care what you say, it was blue and gold). 

I think we're all secret followers, even if we don't want to admit it. We look to everyone else and hope we'll figure out what to do. 

Oh, everyone is standing at this side of the escalator, okay, I will too. 
Everyone seems to be forming a queue over there? Maybe we should go join it...

One of the biggest things I think is the fact that we don't feel we can talk to an awful lot of people.  Of course, we all have our friends, family and partners, our best friends that probably think we're completely bonkers but love us for it all the same. But there's always things going on in our lives, things we think about, things we read that sometimes you just want to talk to someone about. But due to some of those unwritten rules, we feel like we can't.
We feel it's not appropriate, we don't want to trouble someone with something that they might find trivial or not care about, or think you're stupid for bringing up.

But, if you wanna talk about it, why shouldn't you be able to talk about it? You wanna tell someone something? Go tell them.  We shouldn't let rules of society govern our relationships with others, that could prevent insightful conversations with strangers, or create opportunities for us as individuals. 

I am SUPER guilty of not wanting to talk to people about stuff. If I'm feeling brave or feel particularly comfortable talking to someone, I might, just might, bring up a topic or question I've been wanting to discuss. But I'll always ask first. I don't really know why I do, but I think it goes back to not wanting to trouble someone with something. 

Other than this, I normally drive myself crazy. Overthinking EVERYTHING that pops into my head, making a massive issue out of what normally is actually nothing to worry about. I need to stop it. I know I do, but I can't help it! A lot of people laugh at how much I worry about things, and to be fair, looking back I laugh at myself at times. Like, what was I even thinking?!

I don't really know where I'm going with this post if I'm honest, if you're even still reading this at this point, then you're probably also thinking the same. You should also probably be recognised for that. Good effort!

I'm going to stop rambling now, I'll shut up and let you all get on with the rest of your days! But I don't know, it was just something I started thinking about and wanted to get some thoughts written down. 

What do you guys think? ...If you even got any of that!


P.s I just want to wish a massive happy 21st birthday to one of my oldest and best friends ever. 


  1. I was reading this post and thinking "THIS GIRL IS IN MY HEAD", haha
    I want to start blogging and I keep going over and over what I'm trying to write and still haven't published anything, it's like I'm scared of doing the wrong thing, when in fact blogging's actually a great platform to be ourselves and speak our minds in the hope that someone, somewhere out there gets it. Anyway I just thought I'd let you know that I read the whole post and it's affected me in a positive way because maybe I'll go away now and stop overthinking :P
    I'm really glad I stumbled across your blog just now


    1. Ahhh no way!
      You should definitely start blogging! It's one of the best things I've done.
      That's so lovely of you to say, it cheered my day right up when I read it! Xx